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To not want sex EVERY night?

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Bambino81 · 20/04/2012 11:36

Honestly the more he wants sex the more it makes me say no.

Does anyone else go through this? I get fed up with him trying for it every night. Sometimes he wakes me up at 3am >.

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BertieBotts · 21/04/2012 10:20

No, it isn't unfair to say "no" to sex, even if it's all the time. If it IS all the time, there are probably bigger problems in the relationship than sex, TBH.

I am sure many people have sex they don't feel like, but I would be devastated if my DP was doing this for me. Sex isn't just a physical thing - it's about emotional closeness too and that's incredibly important in a relationship. If that is absent then I don't think that's healthy at all. What kind of person would want to have sex if the other partner wasn't really into it? Why not just have a wank?

Different of course (re the emotional connection) if you're talking about casual sex but even then I think both partners should be 100% willing.

I'm not saying it's rape, but coerced sex is wrong in any situation, emotional manipulation is still manipulation.

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