More what would you say in response? Friend A won't have friend B's child over to play because he screams high pitched regularly

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Pretty much as the title says. I remained quiet and very carefully changed the subject. My friend A confided in me last night that she will never have a mutual friend's son over to play any more because he screams and it gets on her nerves.

I didn't know what to say - okay yes the boy does scream. But all the children are friends and really like each other.

I felt it was a bit harsh.

I have no problem inviting children around who have an inkling of good manners and show some respect towards me and my home.

My neighbours DD always seems to break or destroy something whenever she comes around and is allowed up to my DD's bedroom. She is now not allowed upstairs.

My house my rules. I welcome all initially but reserve the right not to reinvite.

maybe she did ask him to stop or use "inside voice" etc first but it was either not backed up by the mum or ignored?

7 and screaming!?!?!?! I wouldn't want him around either.

My son doesn't scream but I think its lovely to hear children in high spirits and having noisy fun. I would ask them to stop or keep it down if its bothering others.

My daughter is a screamer and always has been....she is only 15 months and hope it will get better. I have tried everything to stop it as she is far worse around me rather than anyone else..... God if she is still it at 7!!

Some children are just like that but I guess your house your rules but I would be upset if someone felt like that. But she be very annoying !!!!

If the child had ignored my "we don't allow screaming in this house" line (similar to "we don't allow namecalling/spitting/not sharing in this house" then I wouldn't have this child over to play either.

I hate screaming. Ironically enough, I was a screamy child!

there are degrees of screaming too, like the odd yelp of excitement is nice, contstant AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAA would eventually take its tole on the most tolerant!

Hell is other people's screamers. I don't allow badly behaved children or screamers in my house because I value my sanity.

This thread upsets me alot. My DS (almost 2) is a screamer. He just screams- he is delayed talking and screaming is not just when he is upset- it is like a punctuation mark for him. Unlike people's assumptions, we DO make it clear to him it is not appropriate behaviour. We put him in the naughty room (which people also raise their eyebrows at as he is not even 2) and he gets time out. We have tried withdrawing and ignoring. we have tried being quiet but firm, We have tried yelling. We have even tried screaming back at him. And yes, we do get alot of comments about our parenting- but none of the others have ever done it. If I thought that people were going to ban us, and make comments about my parenting behind my back along the lines of 'well I would not allow it...'. We are bloody trying to stop it for crying out loud. At 7 that may well be different, I can see that, but this hits a little close to the bone right now for me.

I would not like a screamer.

I said 'No screaming!' to my friend's 4 yo daughter. She constantly squealed at a glass shattering high pitch. This was bad enough in the house, but in the garden was probably torture to my lovely, quiet neighbours.

My friend was not impressed. She said, 'that's what children do!' with a cat's bum mouth.

I think I live near thisisyesterday's friend.

I'd ask the child to refrain from screaming and then withdraw all future invitations if he didn't. After many years of playdates for my three DCs, there are definitely some children I've chosen to avoid over the years for numerous reasons. The mothers of the most annoying children seem oblivious to their child's behaviour, like the one who laughed as her child persistently rammed my legs with his scooter. She's not spoken to me since I politely asked him to stop.

I wou;dn't want a 7 year old screamer in the house either (redstormrising big difference between a 2 year old and 7 year old) and I've just survived 8 5 and 6 year old boys for DS's party in teh house. They did all start screaming at one point and I told them to stop or they could go home. they stopped.

I was at the birthday party of Friend A's son back in November and of the children there, there were quite a few screamers. Thinking back, whilst I felt it was a bit harsh of friend A to never have a mutual friend's son back because he screams. I did make a mental note not to have a number of boys to my son's 7th birthday party because they screamed. So it was hypocrytical of me to judge Friend A.

One boy screamed more than he talked. It was horrific and I couldn't wait to leave her house.

redstorm - don't get upset. There's a world of difference between a 2 year old and a 7 year old

.. I know when your child is 2 you always jump forward and worry a lot about the future, but really, don't take this personally.

i really can't stand that awful high pitch scream that some children do. I suffer from tinnitus and it really sets the ringing off. I know children who do it and the parents are so used to it they are oblivious and just continue their conversation. I on the other hand now can't hear anything but constant ringing!

I have left restaurants and pubs because children are screaming and the parents are just happily carrying on as if it's okay.

I am pregnant with my 1st and i am genuinely worried that i may get a screamer!

Oh no, thanks. Sorry, I was not meaning to hijack or be precious about it. Today has been a bad day screaming wise! Truth is, we are really worried about it, and at our wits end. I DO see the difference bewteen 2 and 7 really! And i am sure it is because he cannot talk. He babbles, but he is not even saying 'mum' or 'dad' or anything at all. He says not a single word we can understand.

I have had a glass of wine and it did hit a sore spot... sorry OP.

Have you spoken to your HV about being referred to a speech therapist redstormrising?

I think a speech therapist is the next step. Our CM says that it will come in time and not to worry, but I think it is beyond that now. he will be 2 very soon. He understand what we say mostly, but no words, just babbling. I would have thought 'mum' or 'no' by now surely!

Thanks. :)