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to report the woman living across the road?

57 replies

SurroundedByPlasticCrap · 18/04/2012 16:30

We all live in council housing, it's an okay area, not bad schools and all the houses have 3 or 4 bedrooms.

The house opposite used to have a family in it but the wife left and 2 older boys moved out. Was just the man left with his 17 yo daughter when he had a stroke. She had already left school and wasn't working so she became his carer. This happened 8 years ago, before I moved into my house so I don't know all the details, just what he's told me. He's pretty open about his situation and tells everyone.

Anyway when I moved here he would always stop in the street and chat saying how he wished his daughter would get a job. "She just sleeps, drink and smokes all day, saying she's looking after me. I don't need looking after, and the government pays her too." words like this, they would shout at each other in the street too, calling each other lazy and useless.

Anyway I thought it was none of my business. I saw a lady go in and clean once a week and that was that.

Then about a year ago he told me he was moving in with his new girlfriend. I asked if his daughter would be moving out and he said no because she had nowhere else to go. He said he would still claim that he lived there or their benefits would get cut and he wanted a place in case it didn't work out with the girlfriend.

After a few months a bed got thrown in the garden and then 2 couches. New furniture was delivered by Argos, a decorators van was there and I can see sitting room has been wallpapered.

Then the parties started, they are not really loud, but there are drunk people wandering up and down the street, bottles and cans thrown over the fence onto the street. I had a guy sleeping in my front garden and I've had to ask people not to sit on my car 4 times (to be told to fuck off). And the dog shit makes my skin crawl, she has 2 little yappy dogs that shit all over her garden and on the street; and my garden if the postie doesn't shut the gate.

The man comes back to pick up his mail every few weeks and I've told him I've spoken to his daughter about the mess. He said there's nothing he can do, but I pointed out the house was in his name and if the amount of shit all over his garden was considered a health hazard he'd be in trouble. He mumbled about having a word but that was 6 months ago.

I don't know how to report someone and frankly I feel bad doing to but I think benefits are really important and these people are taking the piss. The waiting list for housing is so long and they are just taking up space that could really help someone else.

I know I'm not unreasonable for reporting them, I just want to know how I do it so they don't know it's me, don't want to be shouted at or car damaged.

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Chubfuddler · 18/04/2012 16:32

Your housing association should be able to help with this surely, if it's council/HA property?

JustHecate · 18/04/2012 16:34

report the noise and the littering to the council. That is not an unreasonable thing to do. They won't disclose who told them. They could even claim they're doing random inspections.

thebody · 18/04/2012 16:58

Yanbu.Agree justhecate. Sympathys must be horrible.

RuleBritannia · 18/04/2012 17:02

If benefits are being claimed unlawfully, it should be reported. Be on the side of other tax payers. If the current tenant (daughter) can afford parties and dogs, who is paying for them? You are I are paying for them. Report it!!

Debsbear · 18/04/2012 17:03

Go online, find your local council and follow the links. There must be some on there for environmental health. Start with the noise and rubbish, just drop into the conversation/ letter that the resident is NOT the person on the rent book.

usualsuspect · 18/04/2012 17:06

Report the Argos furniture

WorraLiberty · 18/04/2012 17:06

I have no advice OP

But on another note, I can't believe how many neighbours tell people the ins and outs of all their private/financial business Shock

I've lived here 17yrs and I just get a list of illnesses

SurroundedByPlasticCrap · 18/04/2012 17:59

Thanks,

I went onto HA website and there's a link to report people for benefit fraud. It has an option of reporting someone not living at an address and then you can select the benefit being abused and it includes disability. A trip to an internet cafe for me tomorrow.

My dh and I have a small business and the tax we pay is huge, when you see every penny that comes in and then goes out, very little is left.

I'm also going to call enviromental health about the dog poo from a phone box.

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kerala · 18/04/2012 18:02

Sympathy. We had vile vile neighbours along these lines. Awful people. I used to be of the left wing/everyone has some good in them opinion but a year with neighbours like yours is enough to turn anyone into a frothing Daily Mail type.

scuzy · 18/04/2012 18:03

report report report!

why have you to use internet cafe tomorrow? are you not online at home now?

SurroundedByPlasticCrap · 18/04/2012 18:12

@scuzy - My dh is paranoid about them tracking the IP address, I've told him it's not CSI but he thinks it's best, just in case. I'm not in the mood to laugh at him anymore, he has been like super dh recently.

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usualsuspect · 18/04/2012 18:15

If you are so sure of your facts , no need for all the cloak and dagger stuff really is there?

Iwantcandy · 18/04/2012 18:21

Report. Why should you put up with it and all of us pay for it?

Agincourt · 18/04/2012 18:23

I've lived here 17yrs and I just get a list of illnesses

SNORT

jut report them for the mess. The other stuff isn't your worry, it's his/theirs if they get in trouble/charged for removal

DublinMammy · 18/04/2012 18:28

Report, report, report - bloody cheaters AND not content with just plain old cheating they are littering and causing a nuisance.

minsmum · 18/04/2012 18:28

If he is not living there report it. The tenancy will be in his name and it sounds like it is a family home that could be used by a family. The daughter may get rehoused in suitable accomodation.

highflyingbird · 18/04/2012 18:29

Just phone up your housing officer and tell them that your unhappy with the state of the place, ie. messy garden, dog fouling, parties and general nuisance. The housing officer will probably urge you to report the parties, noise, anti social behaviour etc to the police, but you can do that anonymously and them let the housing officer know. The housing officer must keep your details confidential anyway, it's more than their job's worth to divulge your information.

You've certainly got reason to complain, I strongly suggest you complain repeatedly until the problem is resolved. There is a whole raft of legislation to deal with this kind of behaviour.

I certainly would never be off the phone complaining if this was my neighbour. You don't need to get into all the details of who is living at the address etc or benefit fraud if you don't want to, but you can hopefully get the other issues resolved reasonably quickly.

Good luck Smile

catgirl1976 · 18/04/2012 18:30

They wallpapered the sitting room?

Fucking heathens.

Was it this wallpaper?

Report

highflyingbird · 18/04/2012 18:32

Meant to also say, once the housing have a complaint they've got to investigate it. So hopefully one he housing start noisying (sp?) around it will be enough for them to put a lid on it.

boringnickname · 18/04/2012 18:35

catgirl, i looked at your link and thought, ooooh, you can get wallpaper of wall sized goats now - then i realised, computor wallpaper - im an idiot

Im usually of the mind your own business school, but this time id say report her, lazy cow

SurroundedByPlasticCrap · 18/04/2012 18:40

@catgirl1976 - It's nowhere near as tasteful as goats. It's a gold and purple flock type paper, very classy. Though if she'd had goats put up, I might have not have thought about a person on benefits being able to maintain a party lifestyle and pay for a decorator.

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goingtoofast · 18/04/2012 18:40

The house next door to me is a council property. My old next door neighbours used to let their dog poo pile up. I called enviromental health but they wouldn't do anything as they were concil tennants. I had to speak to their housing officer, she assuredme she wouldn't say I called, was due to visit the day day anyway and would casually glance out of the back door and metion the state of the garden.

I assume the housing officer will visit your neighbours too to sort out the problems.

usualsuspect · 18/04/2012 18:42

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boringnickname · 18/04/2012 18:45

usualsuspect WTF?

Codandchops · 18/04/2012 18:46

A family locally have just been fined £2k for dog fouling that they were not dealing with. That needs reporting because it's a health hazard never mind any benefit issues.

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