To be cringe every time someone

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says something loud to their off spring so that everyone around can hear and then look for reactions from the nearby people.

"Oh! Johnny how clever of you to know that the green man means you should walk across the road" cue smug expression to anyone near enough, and waits for reaction.

That's my dad but NOT about how wonderful his grand kids are but normally about how terrible service is ect! Makes me everytime

YANBU, but now whenever I am talking to DS in public I feel like maybe I am doing it. Am too new to parenting to be sure of the line

YANBU. What you said about traffic lights reminded me of a woman who praised her child to Heaven for pressing the button, then looked at me and smiled in my face for a few seconds like the boy had got all A's for his Highers!

Didn't quite know what to make of it tbh!

Instructions "Performace Parenting." Love it, nicking it!

Ah! It has a name!
Thank you

Autumnsummers and instructionsto Love it

When I am out with DS, I describe everything to him, but only really loud enough for him to hear from his pram.

That's ok isn't it? I don't want to be a PP

Catgirl PP's (still love it!) are completely obvious in not praising the child to praise them, but to get smiles or comments of praise from strangers about them / thier child. they glance wildly around them to see who is watching and what they will do / say about what the child did.

*to see who is watching and wait to see what they will do / say about what the child did.

I think I am alright then :) I go a bit quiet if anyone comes into range in case the think I am bonkers but I did get an odd look in the supermarket the other day and was worried I was doing it!

Surely pointing out the green man is good parenting?

loud parenting is the man in the ashmolean talking to the entire museum his 3 year old about the Rosetta stone and hyroglyphics last time we went. He looked like a complete knob.

People reaching their children about things that keep them alive and safe do not look like knobs..

Methe you're mising the point a wee bit. It's not about praising the act itself. It's about the transparent need for approval / support from the people nearby after the fact.

methe

I only gave the green man as an example. It was actually a woman in a museum today that I saw/heard doing it and then eye balling me for a reaction. It's just I was so uninterested in what she had to say that I didn't hear her carefully announced words to her children so I couldn't repeat them on here

lisa My Dad does that all the time. We went on a day out once where they had to stamp your hand if you left and wanted to come back in. We went off to the car for the picnic and when we came back there was nobody to check the stamp. So he loudly called for someone to check it.

I haven't been subjected to any loud boasty PP for years now the boys are older.

I'm not sure on this one. When my DS1 needed speech therapy they encouraged you to narrate, comment and repeat what you're doing. It might be "affirmation" of good behaviour or the parent might have been describing what was happening.

cue smug expression to anyone near enough, and waits for reaction. I have never seen that happen, unless it's mild embarrassment at how loud it came out!

Hmm my ds has speech delay. I seem to spend my life doing a loud commentary of "well done DS! Good waiting" and "Let's wait for the green man... yes well done! There he is let's cross the road".

But I don't give a shit what anyone else thinks. If I didn't do it the kid would probably still be mute at 3 years old.

Now the woman in Waitrose explaining in a loud voice and trying to make eye contact with anyone nearby about the various merits of organic milk vs other types to a small toddler did look a bit of a tit and I judged.

One of the reasons I love MN is because it gave a name to Loud Parenting.

I knew what it was but I just didnt know what to call it.

I am from Islington originally - the actual home of Loud Parenting.

Now the corner of East London is being invaded slowly by people who cant afford Islington and to my joy Loud Parenting can occassionally be spotted at the 'right' children centres.

Always makes me arf.

catgirl that is fine and lovely.
It becomes PP when you start adding 'and that tree there - do you remember what type it is? You know darling you told me yesterday, thats right de - sid- u- ous.

Oh well done darling.

To an 18mth old.

But I am all in favour of PP/LP cos it makes me larf.

Ha ha ...no, that's not me - but I have seen the type

I am related to some of them :)

I love loud parenting! I find it highly amusing and it gives me something to laugh at!

I had an acquaintance who was a stereotypical loud parent, everything would be accompanied with glances around to make sure everyone was looking at her little darling. We once went to a soft play centre that had a toy campervan and whilst her son sat in the campervan she sung Peppa Pig's 'we're going on holiday in a campervan' over and over again really loudly. She would also make out her son had said things when he hadn't: so imagine a totally silent child sitting there stuffing his face and she'd say 'You want broccoli for tea? Oh you do love your vegetables dont' you?'

And of course she made the obligatory put down comments about my DCs too, that loud parents seem to do to others. And made out that she did things perfectly 'Really? You don't buy organic meat? Gosh I don't know what to say to that'

I started to look forward to our meetings so I could snigger about her

Hex and lequeen

Had someone in our office doing it last week. Obviously to show the rest of our clientele that she was definitely too posh to darken our doors other than in deepest need.

How we laffed.