DH thinks meals are solely my responsibility

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I told DH tonight that I'm fed up of always being the one who has to think about food ie. what we will eat, what we need to buy, what the baby will eat etc. I'm not even that fussed about food myself so why is it always me. He told me to suck it up because "that's what mums do" and I went apeshit. WIBU?

You're both being unreasonable.

YANBU Sexist twat.

No you weren't, tell him he's making dinner and doing the food shopping now.

YANBU.

He IBU for the comment alone. Twat. However, I do all the meals in our house and DH does all the clearing up/dishes. Works for us.

Mine is a bit like this too but he at least has the grace to apologise when I point this out on a weekly basis

The meal he is responsible for is Saturday brunch and the kitchen mess is horrific.

Does your DH wash up?

YANBU. Your DH is a moron.
My DP loves cooking and does dinner most evenings. I like cooking too, and do most of the meals for DD who eats earlier. It's not a gender role.
That kind of sexist attitude would really get up my nose.

YANBU.

Yanbu, unless you expect him to take bins out, do DIY, bring home the bacon etc because "that's what dads do"

Not sure. Depends if he's out at work all day and if you're at home with the baby. I'm responsible for all the cooking here (but I love it!), and don't like DH doing any of it because I know he's working hard during the day.

Seriously? He's a wanker and YABU for having to ask whether YABU.
What a mysoginistic, boring, knuckle-dragging moron

Well food in our house, its budget, it purchase, its preparation is all down to me. Always has been, always will be and I wouldn't want it any other way.

DH is in charge of the bins, the garden, wiping down outside and brings home 90% of the bacon.

AFAIAC, if DH wants his beer/wine poured with knobs on, DH can have it.

He gets his cereal in the morning though - but I do take him up a cup of tea

it depends on how you run your household really. my DH does the washing, washing up, sorting clothes, bins and any diy. i therefore do the shopping and cooking. neither of us like doing the cleaning so we split it. we both have full time jobs and decided that a split like this was best for us. if your dh doesnt do anything else around the house then fair enough to complain but i think i would want to know the bigger picture before deciding who is and who isnt BU.

The way the conversation was presented in the OP, I'm not remotely surprised that the husband responded in kind.

Whatever happened to having a good ol' chat about something amiably?

This one is easily solved - just cook enough for yourself and the baby. Alternatively cook food that you know he hates.

Seriously, he sounds like a right cock.

I go through this with my bf, he's an extremely fussy eater and I spend bloody ages each week trying to find meals he'll eat
. On the odd occasion he does cook its always some crap he can sling in the oven but he expects me to cook from scratch!

Saying that, its better then cooking all the time lol.

Why don't you tell him he has to cook at least twice a week?

I go through this too. I have to cook for nine of us altogether and would like a bit of inspiration from my DH. His response was to buy a cookbook. Cheeky git.

It doesn't depend who does what. I do do all the cooking, in exchange for my partner doing other stuff. That's not unreasonable. However if I wanted to change things, and he said tough it's your job because you're a woman that would of course be an unreasonable fucking stupid thing to say.

Not necessarily a gender thing. Been away for a week with ILs and I cooked every night (except when DH did). When I asked if MIL if she would do the food one night her response was that she couldn't possibly as she didn't know what we liked to eat .

I would die of boredom if I had to do all of the cooking.

The OP's partner said 'it's what mothers do'. How is that not a gender thing?

Hmm sounds like neither of you is finding it easy to discuss things.

Did you propose an alternative arrangement or just have a whinge?

What an areshole response. I'd have said that I'm not his Mum, then cook only for any children who I am a mother to.

I would find it well nigh impossible to live with someone with an attitude like that. I do most of the cooking in our house, but that's because I don't mind it and am clearly better than DH - but he does all the clothes washing and ironing because I can't stand it. We both 'bring home the bacon'. If DH ever started coming out with the 'me big man go work, you woman cook and serve big man' routine there would be no food on the table full stop. I would make sure the baby has food, do something easy for myself, and he can forage for himself. Long term it would be the death knell for our relationship, I fear.