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to want to take my pushchair into my doctors surgery?

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gillquil · 09/04/2012 22:39

my g.p surgery has just banned pushchairs, I've them a letter that follows, is this the norm? or should I just change our G.P.?

Hello,

I would like to make a complaint about the forthcoming ban on pushchairs in the surgery from the first of April. I am a mother of three, my eldest child has just turned four and we have a double pushchair which we normally use for our two youngest. My youngest child has just turned one, and as is typical for his age, he wants to crawl and climb all the time, he definitely doesn?t want to sit on my lap while I wait, he will however normally wait happily in his pushchair, or sleep in it while we wait or during our appointments. My two year old daughter just wants to run around.

If I am unable to bring my pushchair into the surgery I am going to have to let my son crawl over the floor in the surgery which I can?t imagine being the most hygienic thing to do. Or when he is asleep I will have to wake him, and what if both he and his sister are sleeping? do I really want to wait for my appointment struggling with a sobbing two year old daughter and a crying one year old son, my handbag, and changing bag on the floor or on the seat next to me. All of which, toddler, and baby and baggage have to then be carried into the appointment. I would also like to know what is suggested for mothers who need for example to have their young child with them during say a smear test? Should I leave him to crawl around the floor in the surgery during this?

Parents that I know often rely on being able to entertain a young child or children in a pushchair so that they can speak to their G.P. or nurse for a few minutes uninterrupted. Or the child sleeps on through their appointment and waiting time, and the parent can have a proper conversation or treatment.
I don?t have the option of arranging childcare for the times when I need to come to the surgery, especially as we normally ring at 8 a.m to see what appointment we can get if any for that morning.

I asked about the security of the area that has been designated for pushchairs to be left. As far as the lady I spoke to knew, there is none, it seems that the surgery is relying on the area being ?out of sight.? I disagree anyone walking past will be able to see a row of unsecured pushchairs. Pushchairs cost as I am sure you know an enormous amount of money. We live close by and two of my neighbours have had pushchairs stolen from outside their own front doors in the last six months, and we had a child?s scooter taken ourselves. It was suggested also that I buy a bicycle style lock for our chair, but I can?t see what I would secure it to.

While I can see the need for some sort solution to the congestion in the waiting room, as a result of parents and children who are patients at XXX Surgery using pushchairs, I don?t feel that just telling people their only option is to leave their pushchairs outside, in an unsecured area, and carry in their child or children and changing bags, handbags and who knows even their shopping, is acceptable. In fact I think it?s discriminatory. I have spoken to several mothers today who are patients at XXX, as are their children, and they all agree, and have said they will be putting forward their comments also.

I look forward to your reply and hope that XXX can be a bit more creative in finding a solution that doesn?t leave patients feeling unwelcome.

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bellatmum · 10/04/2012 11:52

Ah! the solution - we all need arufus roo jacket. Perhaps they might make one with a pocket for us to store our children in too

Bonsoir · 10/04/2012 11:52

It would never have crossed my mind to need help from DP for going to the doctor's. And I certainly never lugged lots of stuff around with me.

Think it through - buy a small buggy and don't take a big bag of crap to the GP's. It is really antisocial to fill up the GP's waiting room with a huge pushchair and loads of bags.

Bonsoir · 10/04/2012 11:53

ha ha ha at "couple of changes of clothing in case of explosive poos". I have never, ever taken a change of clothing anywhere with a baby.

OTTMummA · 10/04/2012 11:53

ClaireAll I have come to the conclusion that you live in some parallel universe where chocolate rains from the sky, everyone sahm has a cleaner, a loving husband who earns an extortionate amount on 39 hours a week and no one ever gets too sick.

SardineQueen · 10/04/2012 11:53

One nappy?

That's not going to get you very far Confused What if they do a mega shit all up their back? Babies shit all the blimmin time. One nappy??? No change of clothes?

choceyes · 10/04/2012 11:54

I'm thinking that I am really lucky that my GPs waiting room is so massive, bigger than my downstairs!

Turniphead1 · 10/04/2012 11:55

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brdgrl · 10/04/2012 11:55

Someone donated the sperm...
claire was that honestly aimed at lone parents? You've crossed the line a bit, shame on you.

amen, bellatmum.

And totally agree that over-large pushchairs and inconsiderate uasge are problems. But I question the 'one size fits all' application of the surgery's response. My strolller is TINY, the lightest one we could find that ws age-appropriate, and yet it is covered presumably by a ban as well. And again, we're talking about a surgery - a place where one can assume that there will be a range of abilities and needs. It should be able to accomodate the legitimate needs of parents, and some will need their pushchairs.

SardineQueen · 10/04/2012 11:55

You never took a couple of spare baby-gros out?

Mine used to do these violent shits where it all spurted up the back of their nappy, sometimes. I'm sure that is quite normal Confused

Mine wren't pukers but I understand some can vomit quite liberally down themselves as well.

People have babies whose clothes never need changing during the course of a day? Blimey, I thought mine were easy Confused

choceyes · 10/04/2012 11:56

I too never have taken a change of clothes out, except when in the early days of potty training my DS, and that was about 2 days of taking clothes out. BUt I never had pukey babies.

CovertTwinkle · 10/04/2012 11:56

Shock missed the comment about DHs! Seriously? Appointments at my surgery are a nightmare to get and are normally 10am or 3pm and thats all thats available until 3 weeks time - so that doesn't work.

I would have struggled with the one bag suggestion.
I have a small toiletries bag with all my emergency meds in which takes up space, bottle of water, phone, keys, purse, change of clothes for DD, changing mat, nappies, wipes etc, my med notes, DDs red book etc. I also wear skirts ( dont possess a single pair of trousers or jeans) and didn't have a coat this winter (was in refuge and couldn't afford one) so didn't have the "pockets" option. Im sure a lot of people could stuff things in various places but its much easier and more convenient for often sleep deprived mums to have a second bag and sling it on the buggy.

Bonsoir · 10/04/2012 11:57

I've never taken more than a couple of nappies and nappy sacks and a small pack of wipes...

ClaireAll · 10/04/2012 11:57

I didn't have any trouble being out of the house for an hour with one nappy and no change of clothes (x five children).

A longer outing maybe would stretch to a second nappy, and a babygro. But there is no way that I would carry multiple nappies and two full sets of clothes, just in case.

SardineQueen · 10/04/2012 11:58

A couple of babygros and vests don't take up much room.

The people who are finding themselves unable to access services are not in that position because they have a spare babygro with them.

I flat out can't believe that anyone would go out to the doctors with a small baby and just take one nappy in their pocket. That's bizarre.

SardineQueen · 10/04/2012 11:58

But if you go to the doctor you might be gone for well over an hour...

choceyes · 10/04/2012 11:59

No I have never changed clothes during the day, never had to. Maybe I have lower standards. I don't see a couple of food stains or a very mildy wet (not poo) vest from an overfull nappy a reason to change clothes Blush

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Cremeeggsandkitkatsoldiers · 10/04/2012 11:59

"Nappies
Wipes
Nappy bags
Changing mat
Couple of changes of clothes in case of explosive poos
Wallet
Keys
Mobile"

all of that can go in one rucksack, plus a canvas bag for decanting (light and small). don't need change bag plus handbag!

and you don't need to take all that stuff up to the waiting room, you can take out one nappy, one small packet of wipes, one nappy sack, change mat, wallet, keys and mobile.

at one point (particularly when flying) I used 3 canvas bags in one rucksack so the smaller bits could be grabbed and all the extras left on the buggy.

At the bottom was all the spare/emergency stuff: clothes, extra nappies, infacol etc, pack of nappy sacks, muslins etc this was the biggest/bulkiest one but also the least valuable one so could be left on buggy without too much worry

next was the change room one: 2 nappies, one pk wipes, 2 nappy sacks, nice n light and easy, could be whipped out and handed to OH Wink

next was the "hand bag" one: book, toy, wallet, keys, phone, one muslin - at the top so easy to get to

OTTMummA · 10/04/2012 12:00

I know cremeeggs, I just worry that a mother suffering from pnd or mh problems who has walked around to get her baby to sleep so she can have a tearful conversation about asking for help with her gp without her baby seeing that would walk out and not receive help if she was told, sorry but you have to get your baby out and leave buggy outside, therefore waking baby up. She shouldn't have to say to the receptionist that she feels suicidal, and really needs to leave baby asleep for the appt.

SardineQueen · 10/04/2012 12:00

I find it amusing that people are focussing on whether people have one or two bags, and whether they have a babygro on them or not, as opposed to

Multiple babies
Babies and young toddlers
Physical difficulties
Mental health difficulties

Clearly someone who is physically and mentally able with one baby is going to be able to manage with one bag, two or even 4.

brdgrl · 10/04/2012 12:01

I didn't have any trouble being out of the house for an hour with one nappy and no change of clothes (x five children).
How wonderful for you.

Last June I took a one-year old to the out-of-hours surgery. She had rotavirus and ultimately ended up in hospital for several days. Within an hour, she probably shat herself 2 times and threw up a further 2 times.

See, that's what sick babies (the kind that go to surgeries, in fact) do.

Cremeeggsandkitkatsoldiers · 10/04/2012 12:02

"I flat out can't believe that anyone would go out to the doctors with a small baby and just take one nappy in their pocket. That's bizarre."

no it's not, might not be enough for the whole trip! but that's all you need to decant off the buggy to go up to the buggy free waiting room.

SardineQueen · 10/04/2012 12:02

CremeEgg of course they go in one bag Confused

CovertTwinkle · 10/04/2012 12:02

Grin I challenge any of you who think one nappy and no changes of clothes needed to have tried that with DD from birth - 7 months. Poo down her leg and up her back maybe 3 times a day, she was quite a pukey baby for a while aswell. I would get through 2 changes of clothes per outing. I think those of you who had babies that didn't do this were very very lucky!!

halcyondays · 10/04/2012 12:02

I never went anywhere with only one nappy.

What's so funny about taking spare clothes in case a baby books or has a poo explosion? Confused