To be sick of people saying this?

[FrenchRuby]

I've been researching tummy tucks. After two large babies and massive weight gains in pregnancy (completely my own fault) and dropping from 18stone to 12stone in a year, I am left with the most awful stomach. I have very deep stretch marks and disgusting loose skin that's in a kind of 'w' shape on my belly.
I've tried creams and wraps, Im not sure if I actually thought they'd work or it was just wishful thinking, either way I've still got a disgusting tummy. I've realised that a tummy tuck is the only way I'm going to get rid of the loose skin (Im not fussed about my stretch marks, they don't show through clothes like my flappy skin does).
But here is where I am getting really annoyed. When people say this:

'Just exercise and it'll tone up'

No, it won't! I exercise every single day and if anything it's make it worse. I just get so frustrated, it's not like I'm looking for an easy way to lose weight or something, I've worked hard to lose all the weight I have and people saying this make me feel like I'm being lazy or something.
I'm also a bit sick of hearing 'But you have two children to show for it' Does that mean I'm not allowed to feel insecure about my body? I'm 24 with the body of an old lady :(

I'm not entirely set on a tummy tuck, I'm still researching. I'm not asking if tummy tucks are right or wrong because I know that people have different views on it.

If you can afford it go for it.
And well done losing all that weight.
Just make sure you use a reputable surgeon.

Well they're just trying to make you feel better aren't they? Would you honestly like it more if they said "yeah, I agree, you look terrible"?

Well done on your weight loss!

Really though, I wouldn't discuss the tummy tuck with other people as they clearly don't understand.

Just do your research, speak to your Doctor and stop worrying about other people.

It isn't really something I would be discussing with people, so I wouldn't invite their comments.

I think that's the answer, I should just stop telling people about it!

I'm in the same boat and veer between accepting my body how it is and desperately wanting a tummy tuck.

My 2nd baby was huge and I'm tiny and tbh the more weight I lose the worse the spare skin looks!

I would say to loose all the wieght you want to loose before you have the tummy tuck, then you would get the best results.
If something upsets you, and you can change it to make yourself feel better then do it.
Just remeber it is major surgey and will take a massive recovery period. Please dont try and get it done on the cheap

Providing you are planning to pay for it yourself, you should do it.

And I agree, exercising probably wouldn't help.

Yanbu, it is definitely not true. My dsis had the same problem as you and her GP advised only a tummy tuck would work - there is a limit to how much your muscles can firm up your skin. If people won't stop saying this to you say you have sought medical advice and exercise is unlikely to fix the problem.

And well done on your weight loss. I am currently in the process of loosing my weight after 3 DC, I was 18 stone at my heaviest and am currently 13 so I know how hard it must have been for you. Whatever you decide to do you have hugely benefited your health by loosing so much weight, so be sure to keep congratulating yourself!

Just don't tell anyone about it! Save up, lose any more weight you need to lose and just have the operation. Don't tell anyone even then - it's nothing to do with them. And well done on losing all that weight! How did you do it and how long did it take you?

I'm 2stone off my target and I think it would take me a good few years to save up so it would mean that I'd maintained my weightloss for at least a year and it would also give me the chance to tone up as much as I could. If people are right (I very much doubt it!) and exercise has helped then I've saved a good amount of money!
That really sounds like I've decided doesn't it haha. I haven't. I'm like randommess, I flitter between acceptance and wanting a tuck.

Skin can and does go past the point of no return when stretched far enough so you are right and YANBU.

Yes keep it a secret and then scoop up all the accolades when the same deluded people think you have achieved your great tum through sheer blood sweat and tears - hahaaaa the ultimate revenge. [bugrin]

Well done SofaKing!
Imperialblether I did Slimming World and it took me from last May so just under a year :)

Do whatever it takes to make you happy!! Tummy tucks are dangerous, so make sure you pick a fabulous surgeon.

The "helpful" advice smacks of ignorance. Don't worry about it. Just stop telling people about it.

And well piggin' done on the weight loss, it's amazing!

No, you're right exercise can't do anything for lose skin.

have the tummy tuck. Really do your research though. I'd avoid any of those 'chain' cosmetic surgery clinics.

I'm doing loads of research! I'm not bothered about the money, if it takes me longer to save up that's fine, I'd rather spend a bit more and not have a botched tummy!

I do more exercise than I've ever done in my life, my core is decent and I still look pregnant

I think my stomach muscles are shot. I have a weird bump at the top of my ribs that won't go no matter how much weight I've lost.

yep me too

Well done! I want to keep this thread, along with the mner dancing as she was finally a size 10, as motivation for my own weight loss. Treat yourself to a tummy tuck, I am not usually for plastic surgery but in this case I'd do the same.

If I was going to have a tummy tuck I'd go to Bryan Mayou

could the wierd bump be a hernia?

I think it's where the muscles separated? I've googled it and that's what it sounds like, it doesn't hurt or anything.