To be sick of people saying this?

[FrenchRuby]

I've been researching tummy tucks. After two large babies and massive weight gains in pregnancy (completely my own fault) and dropping from 18stone to 12stone in a year, I am left with the most awful stomach. I have very deep stretch marks and disgusting loose skin that's in a kind of 'w' shape on my belly.
I've tried creams and wraps, Im not sure if I actually thought they'd work or it was just wishful thinking, either way I've still got a disgusting tummy. I've realised that a tummy tuck is the only way I'm going to get rid of the loose skin (Im not fussed about my stretch marks, they don't show through clothes like my flappy skin does).
But here is where I am getting really annoyed. When people say this:

'Just exercise and it'll tone up'

No, it won't! I exercise every single day and if anything it's make it worse. I just get so frustrated, it's not like I'm looking for an easy way to lose weight or something, I've worked hard to lose all the weight I have and people saying this make me feel like I'm being lazy or something.
I'm also a bit sick of hearing 'But you have two children to show for it' Does that mean I'm not allowed to feel insecure about my body? I'm 24 with the body of an old lady :(

I'm not entirely set on a tummy tuck, I'm still researching. I'm not asking if tummy tucks are right or wrong because I know that people have different views on it.

OP, have you been checked for a Diastasis Recti? The fact that your tummy is still disproportionally large, hangs in a W shape, you have a bad back because your core muscles aren't offering support and that exercises if anything make it worse, all sound like the classic signs. If it is, physio and working through the exercises in a book called The Tupler Technique (look for it on Amazon) might be something to explore before you have surgery.

And I'm not being one of those patronising gits who is dismissing how hard it is to lose it - my stomach is 4 dress sizes bigger than the rest of me after having my DS 10 months ago (only 5-6 inches smaller than the day I gave birth, FFS) so I truly feel your pain

And if/when you have the operation, sod anyone else who'd criticise you for it. Until they've felt as humiliated and ugly as this sort of stomach makes you feel, they are in no place to judge you.

Your weightloss Frenchy! I'm not a surgery perv! [buwink]

French Start saving now! I have just dieted off two stone of my flab and it has not made any difference to my "apron" tbh. I admire you for having a tummy tuck. If I had my time over again I'd have a boob job and a TT without doubt.

Im making an appointment with the dr tomorrow about the bump thing, I think I've left it long enough hoping that it was just fat, this thread has just make me think I should get it checked out.

Haha CurrySpice!!
This is me at 15st 7lb (I don't have heavier pics because I avoided the camera like the plague haha) and me last thursday.

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Not sure if this links works..

You look fantastic - love the new hair too.

Dramatic weight loss can really age some people but it definitely hasn't in your case.

You look stunning

Wow! You look great! Very very well done you should be proud of yourself :o

Thank you :)

Thank you! :)

French Ruby, you look great! Am very of your lovely skin

You look bloody gorgeous!

I have always said I wouldn't consider cosmetic surgery, but the thought has crossed my mind recently - I have also lost 6 stone, down from 16 to 10. I will never have a bikini body, but the difference in flab between 12 stone and 10 was huge. I'm maintaining at the moment (I would like another stone off, really, but wanted to see if I could maintain with minimal effort IYKWIM) and the skin is slowly decreasing. I think I'll try and get the last bit of weight off more slowly so that the skin has time to go with it.

I have accepted that I will never have a lithe, taut, youthful body, because I have had 3 giant babies, have stretch marks in tiger stripes across my whole torso, and have crepey skin on tits and belly (I'm fucking GAWJUS I tell you :p). I'll do what I can with diet and exercise, and that's as far as I'm willing to go. It will depend on your body type, too, even at 5'7 and 9 stone as a teenager, I still had a little belly, I'm a total apple shape - this belly is never going to be flat!

Wow! You look amazing!! Totally fab! I'd say go for it!!