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to LOVE my DH husband for this retort?

127 replies

SpamMarie · 07/04/2012 18:26

While I was out this morning, my DH was out the back, hanging up the washing when a gentleman and lady come walking over, bible in hand, asking if they can leave some leaflets. The man jokingly says, 'I can see you're busy doing the women's work, but could I leave this leaflet with you?' 'No thanks,' says DH, 'if that's your attitude towards sexual equality, I'm not sure there's much you can teach me.' And off they trotted.

I love my fast-thinking, clothes-hanging DH.

The woman had the decency to look embarassed on behalf of the man. Seriously though, if you're going door to door trying to convince strangers to convert to your own particular brand of morality, AIBU to think you should do your best to not come off as a sexist, outdated fool?

OP posts:
ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 07/04/2012 21:52

Cassette - you have no right to speak for all Christians nor to tell me who my comments apply to.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 07/04/2012 21:54

Anyway - we are derailing this lighthearted thread & I am not going to post again. Start a thread about if you want to - will gladly debate elsewhere.

Cassettetapeandpencil · 07/04/2012 21:57

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gafhyb · 07/04/2012 21:59

I agree - God Botherer made me wince. Very disparaging. And I'm an atheist. But I'd argue against organised religion in ways other than name-calling.

Kayano · 07/04/2012 22:39

I was raised catholic and would not be offended by bible bashers being used as a term in reference to the ones who knock on people's doors only. I got an A* in religion at school
And joke that it was because my mother bashed me about with a bible for many years. My mother agrees

She didn't mean all Christians and not all Christians would be offended by that so please don't say they would

not that I actually believe but my mother does

ohdearwhatdoidonow · 07/04/2012 22:42

And God Botherer? Surely refers to those Christians who bother non believers about God?

Jackstini · 07/04/2012 22:46

Chipping - those comments/names are offensive to many Christians, including me.
But now you know that, hopefully you won't use them again Smile

Kaekae · 07/04/2012 22:53

Your husband sounds uptight.

FarelylovesMiniEggsandKnuts · 07/04/2012 23:03

Why is it very important for the Word to be spread to try and save souls?

Why is your own soul not your own business and my soul mine?

WorraLiberty · 07/04/2012 23:04

A God botherer or a Bible basher is someone who preaches to others and forces their beliefs upon them....not merely someone who believes in God.

So unless you're a Christian who goes around bothering people and ramming your beliefs down their throats, I don't see why you would be insulted?

FarelylovesMiniEggsandKnuts · 07/04/2012 23:05

Oh and OP I think your DH sounds like a good bloke. Glad he doesnt see it as women's work either!

Pumpster · 07/04/2012 23:13

I am insulted by people who bother me about their god!
Good on your dh, op.

Gay40 · 07/04/2012 23:19

If someone thinks it is OK to knock on MY door, interrupting my peace and quiet, and try to push THEIR point of view onto me, then I think I've a right to say what I like.
I'm 100% with the OP's husband.

Yellowtip · 07/04/2012 23:21

I'm 100% with Worra.

Sorry OP, your DH sounds a rude sanctimonious git.

EchoBitch · 07/04/2012 23:27

Another vote here for your DP.

God Good for him.. Grin

Andie20521 · 07/04/2012 23:38

FarelylovesMiniEggsandKnuts as I understand it, it's selfish if you have discovered salvation, but keep it to your self, so they need to let others know how they can be saved too.

I love my laundry totting DH too... but he's Dutch and very much my equal in all respects- hands on dad, cooks, cleans etc. I think the Dutch tend to be less sexist in terms of roles than English men in my experience.

I used to be embarrased to admit I don't know how our washing machine works...

HowAboutAHotCupOfShutTheHellUp · 07/04/2012 23:39

You lot are easily pleased. The OP's DH's response was lame! I was expecting something much cleverer when I clicked on this thread, but the 'retort' wasn't quick witted, it was bitchy and unfunny!

EchoBitch · 07/04/2012 23:47

What would your response have been.... shutthehellup?

EchoBitch · 07/04/2012 23:47

Now that you've had time to think of a witty response.

Yellowtip · 07/04/2012 23:53

What's wrong with 'thanks'?

EchoBitch · 07/04/2012 23:58

What?
Thanks for insulting me/women by implying that i am doing 'women's work' which is not the work men should be doing?

EchoBitch · 08/04/2012 00:04

I am sure the man was trying to be friendly but it's still rude and the DH wasn't rude to him.
He didn't tell him to fuck off.

He just said that there wasn't much he could teach him if that was his attitude to sexual equality.

Oh and he did say 'No thanks'.

Yellowtip · 08/04/2012 00:06

Since it was clearly a joke, the DH was far ruder to come over all hoity toity than to dismiss it with grace.

EchoBitch · 08/04/2012 00:16

So the DH has gone from being rude to being 'hoity toity'.

Even though he was the one who was insulted.

I think he was quite right to call the man on his sexism.....but there you are...women's work eh.

WorraLiberty · 08/04/2012 00:19

To be fair there are more ways of being rude to someone than simply telling them to fuck off.

I just think the guy made an awkward 'joke' that didn't go down well...so hey-ho. It doesn't mean he's a sexist pig...it just means he made a joke that didn't go down well.

It's just that for me (and yes I realise I'm in a minority) the irony is the OP's attitude to sexual equality is a tad skewed to say the least, if she feels so blessed at her DH doing some normal household chores.