to expect you to take your shoes off in my home?

[BelleTheBeatnik]

That sounds so much more confrontational when I use direct address! [bublush]

I'm not criticizing those who don't remove shoes in their own home, but do the British automatically do it at other people's houses?

Asking this question is a life-long supporter of slippers, by the way. [bugrin]

We keep shoes on but DD's boyfriend takes his off and leaves them by the front door. I am now torn as this is very useful for letting me know that he is here!

So

Everyone else can keep their shoes on but I shall insist that boyfriends and girlfriends remove them!

Only exception is a dinner party as I will suck it up for the sake of the outfits

But shoes are shoes, surely you either insist no-one wears them or what's the point?

Would it be terribly rude to suggest the 'no shoes' rule might be a bit Hyacinth Bucket?

It's not rude IMO, I just don't really care either way if I'm asked to take mine off and don't particularly care if people take theirs off in my house unless they are particularly dirty and then if they don't offer, I will tell them where the shoes go.

This is different with my BIL of course, who is just plain weird. If he was anally retentive about cleanliness, I'd assume he didn't want to pick up dirt from our house (which is actually very clean) or allow us to bring dirt into his. But he's quite untidy really.

We are shoe-removers at the moment. Only because DD is only 9mo and spends most of her time chewing the rug in the living room
When that's over with I'm sure will drop the squareness

We have a sighn saying

Please remove your shoes inside the house thank you,

Those wo done remove their shoes don't get past the hall way

And trust me I have had people hold meetings with me in the hall way because they won't take off their shoes

My house if they wanna walk around in shoes that are wet, steeped in mud and god knows what else they can do it in therein own sodding house

My carpet is 100% wool and was not cheap

You don't go to bed with yur coat on so take your shoes off at people's homes

Of the home is dirty then fair enough I Hoover twice a day and my front room is spotless

I know Worra

It is double-standards but I know most women would kick my arse if I insisted they took their shoes off when they were dressed up. No shoes would kinda ruin the outfit.

I clean very carefully the next day though. [bugrin]

I don't care. I have three cats and a catflap, in wet weather I have little muddy catprints all over the floor. Vanish should give me a loyalty medal, I think I single-handedly keep them in business. Shoes seem like no big deal as long as they're wiped on the doormat, but then my carpets are brown and patterned so hide a multitude of sins slattern [bugrin]

I have a friend with pale cream carpets, she won't have shoes in the house, which is fair enough. But she also has two cats and a catflap. I dread to think of the scrubbing she has to do!

I think it's cultural as well I find amongst my white firends this is not a issue and I am told to keep my shoes on

My oh is white and the same in his family

I am black. And I can pretty much say it's just not the done thing

It's regarded as dirty to have shoes on in the house and rude not to take them off as soon as the front door opens

People are lucky they get in my hall with shoes you can't even get in my sister house with out taking shoes off first

I have cats but their indoor

Yeah I suppose if I turned up wearing an evening dress and my Marge Simpson slippers, I'd look a bit out of place Laura

Mrbo I don't know any black people who insist on shoes off

Unless it's a generational thing?

WorraLiberty I am black am my whole family dose :)

I'm just pointing out that it might not necessarily be a cultural thing.

Mind you there is obviously more than one black culture.

Personally I think it's boaking to walk in to a house with shoes that have trod the dirty pavements. Spitting, urine, chewing gum, pigeon poo... to name just a few of the delights on the pavements.

i've been of the no shoe brigade in the house for the past 25 years and always take them off when visiting and yes I do ask others to do the same when visiting me.

You know if you go to most South East Asian countries even although lots of the lovely people there have very little in the way of money, they would never, ever dream of walking into anyone's home with their shoes on. It's disrespectful to take the dirt in. Says it all really.

I would do a search and you will finds lots of threads about shoes and people get very upset, either way and no one changes their mind! I am for keeping them on-I can't see why floors are so precious.

@BelleTheBeatnik

Hope this doesn't start a bunfight, too tired for that.

You and me both, Belle. [bugrin]

Personally I think it's boaking to walk in to a house with shoes that have trod the dirty pavements. Spitting, urine, chewing gum, pigeon poo... to name just a few of the delights on the pavements

Oooh I took the kids to the park today and I actually sat on the grass

It's the cultural norm here where I live. I tried to do like the Romans and stubbed my toe on the coffee table and broke it (the toe not the coffee table). Don't care anymore, it's me and my shoes or neither.

I always ask "would you like me to take my shoes off?" when I go to someone's house that I haven't been to before.

I don't mind if people do or don't in my house - I hoover most days anyway.

Personally I think it's boaking to walk in to a house with shoes that have trod the dirty pavements. Spitting, urine, chewing gum, pigeon poo... to name just a few of the delights on the pavements

But....but you don't know what is on peoples carpets. There could be anything!!!!

But....but you don't know what is on peoples carpets. There could be anything!!!!

Yeah, and then it all sticks to the soles of your feet and then you put your shoes back on and it's in your shoes. Forever.

Hoovering doesn't clean carpets, it merely picks up loose dirt.

Just sayin'

Exactley Kladd !
At least if you have your shoes on its on the shoe and not squirming and growing inside the shoe!

We take our shoes off before coming in house (slippers ahoy in the porch) and would be happy to do the same in anyone else's - but need slippers or something on my feet. Hate walking round without slippers or shoes on.

My cuz in Hong Kong kept 'hotel slippers' by her front door (which was the done thing) and no problems changing into slippers and keeping the outside outside.

If people don't want shoes inside - then fine - be clear and provide alternatives.