To not want cheap, nasty, Iceland type party food

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At my Son's Christening meal?

Yes I probably am being very unreasonable, but Dammit! I am putting a lot of effort into making a nice meal for the family for after DS's christening. Nothing fancy, but decent quality food - Naice Ham, decent beef, salads, posh bread (as opposed to sliced white ) etc.

I am already getting a particular brand of beer for one member of the family, another has already mentioned they are quite partial to another brand.

Now, a request has been made for sausage rolls, mini sausages and drumsticks - just the cheapy ones, they won't eat the posh ones.

No one has any 'dietry' requirements, this is all just being fussy. Then someone asked what the kids were going to eat, as most kids aren't like my kids (WTAF? Most kids will eat a ham sandwhich) The only addition I have made for the kids is some Pom Bears (of course) and some fairy cakes.

Am I really being unreasonable?

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Can't believe people are putting orders in! How rude! Tell them to like it or not bother coming

No one should make dietary demands if they are guests (allergies being an exception) IME.

But your post rang true - when SIL visits, we get demands of what her kids eat (pizza, chicken nuggets or ham by itself). It is infuriating and I hate the fact our diet totally changes when they visit.

Blimey, how rude are they?

I'd tell them to eat before they arrive and they'll get what they're given.

YANBU
I think it sounds lovely!

Mini sausages are not very expensive and I'd just get them rather than it be a big deal, but definitely wouldn't be doing seperate 'kids foid' - what you've got sounds good!

Am also with the others though - what's the ordering all about?!

Your menu sounds lovely. They are being ridiculous. What's with this "what will the kids eat?" Agree with worra, don't pander to them. I can't stand that kind of cheap party food either.

OP - can you say it's all been budgeted for and ordered?

It's easy to say that though, harder to tell people they are being rude gits!

They eat what they are given or go without! God you can't go catering for everyone who feels like
putting orders in! Unless there r allergies then they abvu. Kids will eat a ham sandwich or very least the bread and what's with the assumption that kids need pizza nuggets etc? Just do what u r doing and if they don't like it they can go hungry :)

Phew! Thought I was going to get a flaming :o

Tbf, I know there are a couple of fussy people but I thought I had planned around that. A family member offered to get the extras (not the one making the demands - demand is probably too strong a word) but I don't want to put others out, and it is not much extra work I suppose.

I am going to Iceland and shall get a bag of sausages and sausage rolls. If there are any left at the end of it mind..... :o

YANBU absolutely not - ditch the guilt do want you want for your child's special day and enjoy it. If others don't like/approve its their issue don't let it become yours!

YANBU

You are hosting, you choose the food.

It's nice to not serve only food that people hate (e.g. if they have a particular aversion to mushrooms there should be some non-mushroom items), but there's no need to specifically order items that they like. If they want some sausage rolls they can have sausage rolls on their own time.

I wouldn't take any orders other than dietry requirements. I have hosted a bjillion family dinners and buffets as well as for colleagues and children's parties etc over the years. i always ask if there are any dietry requirements or particular dislikes but beyond that people always get what they're given.

Your guests are very rude.

Sheep - everyone knows I'm doing it myself. I think they all think it is because I'm tight! But a big part is because the catering option wouldn't include all the sausages, meat cooked to specific requirements etc

Can i come? i'll eat anything me! Sounds lush

You can't have a buffet without sausage rolls

my son is a fussy eater and I've taken the approach that he'll eat what's there or go hungry whenever we attend parties with a buffet. DH doesn't eat meat so we drop a polite note to make sure the host knows this but tell them not to bother with anything especially for him (cheese sandwich will do!)

YANBU

Yanbu it's your sons christening and you are doing the food, it's not up to others what you do unless they have medical conditions which means they can't eat certain foods. You would be unreasonable to dictate what others cook if they were to throw a buffet

'You are hosting, you choose the food.'

Exactly this. Fuck fussy people.

YANBU

I would serve food they hate just for being rude fuckers!

Does she ever cater for you? If yes I would be tempted in the future to insist she only buys foodfrom M&S as your kids won't eat food from anywhere else.

ButI wouldn't really have the balls to do this in rl - would just want to, very very badly.

YANBU and she is very rude.

can i ask a question...

when did christenings become the new weddings? the last few we have been to have been completely OTT marque and hot buffet type affairs and the parents we not even church goers

Your menu sounds lovely - I've done similar many times.
It save faffing around putting stuff in the oven too.

Having said that, I'd probably do chipolatas and some naice sausage rolls because everyone loves them hot. But not from Iceland.

But not chicken as it's too stressful to make sure it's properly cooked through.

Aside from letting you know about dietary requirements (and perhaps asking if they can bring anything/do anything to help) the guests should stay out of it. They don't get to demand that you provide particular things - how rude!