to be upset that the man I dumped, has found somebody else?

[ThisIsNotMyLife]

Or am I going mad? I was blissfully relieved when I dumped him for a host of reasons...now he's seeing someone new, I'm in bits?

YANBU, perfectly normal IMO.

Just don't let it get out of control and start thinking you want him back

YANBU. I felt the same about my last ex.

How dare he be happy without me, the bastard. :)

What are the reasons you dumped him?

Just to be nosey

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a1389463-to-not-want-to-lie-about-the-fact-that-DP-shagged-a-prostitute

Unless you are distressed that a nasty bit of work has found someone else to deceive, YABU to be upset that someone else is now with someone you rejected.
So, why did you break up, and why are you upset?

I'd be quite upset if XH got together with somebody else, to be honest.

To think there was another woman in the world THAT stupid...

Oh, YABU in that case

What is it that's stopping you from feeling angry about what he's done to you?

Are you feeling lonely?

Lonely, miserable, humilated..

It's the pain of real proof that you may have made an error - but it will pass :)

@ Annie.

Oh dear , just read some of the thread you linked to.
Erm, YABU? Cause he sounds like a bellend. And you were probably upset enough about what he did to you whilst you were together, so wasting more tears on him is more than he deserves.
But I think most people have a wobble when even the shittiest ex moves on...

nah,you'd just hoped he'd be bereft without you
when he's bunny hopped into another lassie bed
without a dog can you lick

One week he's begging me to take him back...The next he's moving in with someone. Mad.

Proof that any woman will do, surely?

I hadn't thought about it like that, dowager.

ThisIs Do you think your just hankering after your lost dream? IYKWIM, I think that would be perfectly normal after all you've been through.It's a kind of grieving isn't it?.

I do hope you find the happiness you deserve.

look he's poon hound found new lassie
he's not going to sit at home reflecting and thinking what could have been
so stop moping,stop being self pitying.dust self down,moooooove on

scottishmummy - I'm loving the dog references!

haha good double entendren
lassie=female
but a poon hound is a dog alright

Get a hobby or something. This man doesn't sound worth wasting another thought on.

Don't be a such a dog in the manger. He's entitled to move on. Why don't you?

Yanbu to feel upset, you're still mourning the loss of the man you thought he was before you discovered he was a twunt.

The man I dumped is now marrying someone else and I am heartbroken. I know technically iabu, but personally I sympathise so no, yanbu.

Nice to know I'm not losing my marbles.

I felt vaguely irritated when my ex bf got married last year, we dated when we were both 15 so 20 years ago. Now that is unreasonable. You are being perfectly rational.