To think a 2 year gap between DCs 1 and 2 isn't all that odd or insane?

[FutureNannyOgg]

I'm 20-something weeks pg with DS2, DS1 will be 2 a couple of weeks after my EDD.

My DM thinks I am nuts, and frequently refers to them as being "so close together" (my DB has DCs with 16 months between them which she moans about too, but she claims this is "almost as bad")

I also keep getting comments from people about how "soon" I am having DC2. Yesterday there were 2, including one woman in the street loudly exclaiming "Christ" then making a comment about me being pg, and another much less rude one having trouble with the idea that I was having 2 DCs 2 years apart.

I'm a teacher, I have taught lots of siblings that are 1 or 2 years apart, and a few families where 3 or more DCs have passed through my classes in the last 6 years. Is it really worth such a reaction? Am I actually crazy for deciding to have another?

When dc4 was born dc1 was 5.1 and dts were 21 mths. The younger 3 have an exceptional relationship. Hard at first but reaping in the benefits now they are 8, 5, 5 (just) and 3.

Why does she go on about it when it isn't going to change??

My mother has been very strange in her attitude to my pregnancies generally. When I announced DS (and I know she wasn't expecting it) she sat there in silence with a cat's bum mouth, while my DF got all excited. She absolutely loves DS now.
I had a mc just before I got pg with this one, so it can't have been too much of a surprise (although her reaction to the mc was to say it was "for the best" as it was "a bit soon"), but when I told her I was pg her reaction was "and how do you feel about that" as if I had told her something upsetting. That really upset me and I chickened out of telling the rest of the family while I was there over Christmas because I didn't think I could do it without bursting into tears.
I think she likes to overdramatise things a bit, so I guess this is the only drama she can find in the situation.

Mine are 12 months apart and yes both were planned. I have one in Reception & one in Year 1 and it works perfectly. There is no such thing as the right age gap just the one you have

It is a pretty normal sized gap. So much so that a friend surprised me when she said her DD, born 2 years after her DS, wasn't planned.

Op...your dm sounds rather like mine! She actually cried when i announced i was pregnant with dc2 and said 'im sooo sorry' as if i had given her some truly terrible news.
Iv got dd whos 5,ds1 whos 3 and ds2 whos 17weeks so im also crazy!
Gaps dont matter...its what works best for each family, ignore the judgemental comments.

18 months exactly between DS and DD - very purposely planned that way! We started TTC when DS was finally sleeping through 7 months old. Struck lucky two or so months later.

These early years have been very hard but even now at 3.2 and 20 months they play together. As well as argue and bicker! But I can see already how it will come into its own.

I was trying to replicate the gap between my brother and myself (20 months) as we were good friends growing up. :)

2 years is a typical gap and the most common AFAIK. Surprised at the reactions you've had!

Be prepared - it is tough in the early days. But we're playing the long game.

15 months between mine and planned that way. They are great buddies :)

I'm 41 'weeks & dd is 26 months. Out of my NCT group I'm the fourth to have a second, ranging from 17 months gap & two more are due in may & one sadly miscarried but would've been due when her DS was 2.6.

Clearly it is quite common. YANBU

YANBU, not odd or insane. Congratulations on being pregnant! When people I knew were odd about my second pregnancy, I think it was coming from concern about me coping - DS slept very badly and I was tired a lot.

We have DS 3y 6m and DD 19 months, 23 months gap. 2 years is quite usual IME (obviously I am biased!), friends' baby gaps range from 13 months to 5 years, all manage in their own way. My DCs tumble over each other like puppies, very cute. They disagree but also make each other laugh hysterically! Good luck!

YANBU, but you are insane :) two under two

mwah-hah-hah I remember the pain :o

I have a 5 year gap followed by a 2 year gap between my last two. they all get on really well and i think it's more down to personality and how I treat them rather then age gap. 2 year gap was harder intitially but is great now

Weird! All of my friends that I met at antenatal group with DD had babies when theirs were around 2 years old! It is very normal.