Or is it rude to say this when you call someone on the phone?

[AwkwardMary]

I just picked up the landline when it rang and a female voice said "Hello is John there?"

"John" being my DH. I was slightly taken aback and nearly asked "who is calling please?" but thought I might look like a paranoid wife so I just handed the phone to DH and said "It's for you but I don't know who it is."

Turns out it's his manager from work, needing him to swap shifts on Monday.

Sureley as a manager she ought to know basic greetings? Such as "Hello this is Mrs Manager speaking...is it possible to speak to John please?"

Or am I overly "mannered" for today's people. She's in her early 40's..

Cup I don't have a mobile...DH does..he was actually surprised she rang the landline. I only use email and landline to stay in touch with people. Ihate mobiles.

Artex I believe it's 50p now.

YANBU.

It's manners, innit.

You should have said 'Hold the line a moment modom while I transfer you', paused, gone 'beep - beep - beep' then adopted a different accent (Swedish, perhaps) and said 'Hello - zis is de upstairs - can I heelp yooo? I heeear you wish to speeeak to John, I shall put you through NOW'

YANBU, what lousy manners. But maybe she's having an affair with him and looks at you as the little woman and therefore not deserving of any respect???!! I do hope not btw....

I always ask, and I ask my Dh to ask find out who's called for me - I hate being put on the spot with a caller I'm not 100% sure I want to talk to.

You could just get caller id and take the guessing out of it - I have that and I let a lot of calls go to ansafone, as I just couldn't be arsed talking when I'm working!