To tell my pregnant SIL that my DS is ill

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so that she can make up her own mind whether she visits us?

My DH is angry with me for e-mailing my SIL to ket her know that my DS has 'slapped cheek syndrome'.

He has a rash, which is the third stage of the illness, and is therefore no longer contagious. However, there is a chance that other family members may have caught it and will later develop it. (Everyone else is healthy at the moment).

'Slapped cheek' can be really bad news if you contract it while pregnant. BIL, SIL and DN are due to visit this weekend, and I thought I would let her know so that she can make up her own mind about the potential risk.

DH is now really annoyed, and wants to 'what exactly she is supposed to do with that information'. My answer is 'look up the disease herself so that she can make an informed decision about potential risks to her pregnancy'. Surely IANBU?

Of course YANBU, best she makes the decision for herself.

definitely the right thing to do.

Yanbu

Yanbu. It's not up to your husband to make health decisions on behalf of his sister and her unborn child.

You did totally the right thing. I don't see why your DH is so cross.

I really don't understand his problem.

I would be livid if someone didn't mention this kind of information to me.

You did the right thing. I'd have been annoyed if you hadn't and I was your SIL. Your DH is being an arse!

Yanbu how does he think you would feel if she caught it? You totally did right thing!

thank you. I know I would have been really angry if the positions had been reversed and someone had not mentioned somethng like this. Not sure why, but DH seems to think I am somehow stirring and trying to keep them away

I would hate to miss the chance to see DN.

if I was your SIL I probably wouldn't visit either.

You totally did the right thing.

Yanbu that was exactly the right thing to do.

You did the right thing, your dh is the unreasonable one here! I unknowingly came into contact with slapped cheek when I was pregnant with my now 4yo and faced an agonising 6 days waiting for bloods to test my immunity. Luckily I was immune and all was well. It's not worth the risk for your sil, you've informed her so that she can make an informed choice.

YANBU!

YANBU. Your DH doesn't know what he's talking about.

A close friend of men miscarried at 15 weeks a few weeks ago. She's a primary teacher, a mum didn't know about the risks & sent kid to school anyway.

YADNBU your DH is a wanker

YANBU. I came into contact with it when pregnant, wasn't immune, developed parvovirus, and had to be scanned every 4-6 weeks to make sure DD was still growing, as it can cause big problems. Also had bleeds every few weeks, but they couldn't say if that was definitely to do with ot or not.

*men = mine

Yanbu, its really dangerous for pregnant women to be around slapped cheek. Dd1 caught it when I was pregnant with dd2 and I was constantly monitored.

Just Wiki'd it, if an infection occurs before 20 weeks pregnant, it gives an extra 10% chance of miscarriage or stillbirth. It can cause severe anaemia in the baby, and 'hydrops fatalis'. Either way, it's really not worth the risk.

Here Maryz, it can cause arthritis in adults

Of course you're right.
I has the parvovirus B19 (or whatever it's called) with DD2 and it was a very worrying time. Your SIL needs to know.

Wow. Your DH is being a real idiot.

Why don't you show him this thread? After he's digested it, perhaps he could then apologise to you, thank you for having more concern for his unborn neice/nephew than him, and then beg you not to tell his sister that he'd rather you have not warned her?

Could you imagine if she'd contracted it and the worst had happened - ask him how he'd feel having to tell his sister that his wife had wanted to let her know, but he'd had a strop and thought she wouldn't need to 'do anything with that information'?

I doubt his sister would ever forgive him.