To tell my pregnant SIL that my DS is ill

[MephistophelesSister]

so that she can make up her own mind whether she visits us?

My DH is angry with me for e-mailing my SIL to ket her know that my DS has 'slapped cheek syndrome'.

He has a rash, which is the third stage of the illness, and is therefore no longer contagious. However, there is a chance that other family members may have caught it and will later develop it. (Everyone else is healthy at the moment).

'Slapped cheek' can be really bad news if you contract it while pregnant. BIL, SIL and DN are due to visit this weekend, and I thought I would let her know so that she can make up her own mind about the potential risk.

DH is now really annoyed, and wants to 'what exactly she is supposed to do with that information'. My answer is 'look up the disease herself so that she can make an informed decision about potential risks to her pregnancy'. Surely IANBU?

you have done the right thing and your DH is a self centered tit

It is also not goof if you have cancer as it stops the bone marrow from working for a couple of days.

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YANBU at all. Your DH is nuts. Of course you should have told your sil.

You are being VERY responsible and caring. Surprised your DH can't see that but if you show him the thread he might understand. Hope your DS feels better soon.

whatever how absolutely dreadful xxx so, so sorry for your loss xxxx

Well, thankfully he's seen sense!

Your poor SIl - it's just a waiting game now isn't it, to see if anyone else comes down with it :( Fingers crossed they don't.

Thank goodness, that's what I thought. I did let my friend know as the boys had been at a birthday party on the Sunday before they showed any signs and her little boy doesn't keep great and is on steroids sometimes and I read that it can be dangerous to people with lowered immune systems or on steroids.

FWIW I think you did the right thing by letting her make up her own mind about whether to come, that could be another AIBU - 'my SIL let me visit her house knowing her son had a potentially harmful disease to my unborn baby'. My aunt had a 'friend' who brought her son to visit her when she was pregnant and once they had been there for a while my aunt noticed he had marks all over his face. It transpired he had german measles!