to refuse to wear tights?

[BaronessOrczy]

I am getting married in 9 weeks.

My mother (who is a lot bit of a control freak) is insisting I wear tights.

When I refused, she instead proffered me pop socks.

To be clear, I don't have anything against tights in their place, but I'm desperately worried that slippy tights will mean my shoes will fall off when I kneel for the blessing (low heeled courts with no sides IYSWIM) and then it'll be a complete palaver. I can just see this happening.

I have been remarkably chilled out about the wedding and all the arrangements to date. I have managed to compromise on most things and have kept within budget and not been brideszillaish.

AIBU to tell her that God can't actually SEE if I'm wearing hoisery and none of the guest will be able to tell either, seeing as how my dress is to the floor? AIBU to unleash the bridezilla within?

Will your mum be dressing you? If not can I suggest a polite thanks and do what you like anyways

Why on earth would you want to wear tights in May? Sweaty crotch on your wedding day? No thanks!

I didn't think anyone other than DH's Grandma still wore pop socks...

Why is it so important to her?!

YANBU! Release the Kraken!

YANBU at all, why is she adamant you wear tights? I would always go bare-legged under any long dress personally.

No to the tights - you're going to want to bonk like a bunny - you can't do that with cystitis or thrush

yanbu.

i didn't wear tights or socks etc when I got married.

will you be wearing knickers?
maybe she's worried about fluff or scales....

I'd wear pop socks - smarter than bare legs for church.

I wore stockings

Is she worried you will get blisters or that you'll offend God or what? I'd suggest stockings, which would probably please DP to be, although probably not interest God much - except they would be just as slippy as tights.

Clearly YANBU as it's your wedding and you can do what you want, but personally, bare legs at any wedding not held on a beach - not v nice.

I also wore rather nice stockings and my shoes never slipped off at the alter, i got mine from debenhams bridal range these.

i def would not wear tights tho.

You can get pads to help grip. If I was you I'd do a practice. THe vicar marrrying my friend said the trick was to not move your feet when you go down, keep your toes on the floor iyswim.

Yes to stockings, or hold ups. Makes for a great wedding night

I didn't wear tights - didn't occur to me!

I'm 6'2". Stockings slowly but surely descend to rest on the top of my knees. I do not need that to add to my worries!

I'm not against the tights themselves, it's the shoe element which is worrying me. I don't think a sole or a grip will fit in alongside my feet

It's a small thing, it will please her, I could wear them for the ceremony and then just take them off. But then I think, eh? why?

I don't know why she's so adamant about it. She's making the bridesmaids wear tights too - but they're in knee length dresses, that I can understand - but not a single person will be able to tell if I am.

I'm just fearing a monumental meltdown on the day. By both of us. She won't be dressing me as such, but I totally would not put it past her to pick up my skirt to check.

Oh, and my dress has a fullish skirt so it's not like I need tights to smooth out any lumps and bumps IYSWIM

If its a hot day you'll regret the tights. You can get stockings that fit long legs but they are expensive and in your case unneccesary. Just ask her why then reject the explanation with logic or tell her there is no point wearing tights when you aren't going to be wearing knickers. She ll be so flustered by that she may concentrate on getting you to wear knickers and forget the tights.
Rexpat 'not move your feet when you go down' In Church!!

Honk of the chafing

Honk?! Think!!

Damn you autocorrect.
It changed my friends name to 'Asian' the other day

Baroness - I got wed last September and I had the tights dilemma myself.

However mine was because I have fat thighs and they rub together at the top and bring me out in a rash

I was also concerned about having painful feel later in the day if they were all hot and sweaty.

I didn't wear any in the end, shoes were comfy and after the photo's etc were kicked off under the table and replaced by white leather flip flops.

As for the fat thighs problem I wore hold in shorts!

No one and I mean no one had any idea that I was not wearing hoisery!

Do what makes you comfortable not what your mum wants to do.

Congrats by the way, hope you have a lovely day xx

Fallenangle Go and wash your mind !!

at 'Honk of the chafing'.

OP, seriously, would you normally let your mother dictate tiny and bizarre things like this to you? Ignore her.

Loving the pearl-clutching from some quarters at the thought of Bare Legs To Church.

Oh, and if she lifts your skirt to check, knee her in the face.

FFS.

Blimey, are you going to wear a vest tucked into your knickers to please her too?

How old are you?

Just say 'yes, of course Mother' ............. presumably she will be going to the Church first and she's hardly likely to check as you walk up the aisle (surely she wouldn't?? ).

Yet another reason why I can't understand sensible, grown women having a great big formal wedding - don't you wish you'd just eloped? .

If you're old enough to get married, you're old enough to dress yourself without your mother's input!