or is it actually not okay to make snide remarks about a stranger's appearance?

[Hobs]

I was in Starbucks this afternoon, at the counter waiting for my drink, with a woman standing next to me. She kept staring at my tshirt.

When I caught her eye she gave me a look and asked what my t-shirt said.

It's a white outdoorsy t-shirt with a pink bunny on the front made up of the words "ski bunny" written over and over again.

I said "it says ski bunny"

She broke out into a grin and said "oh, that's good. I thought it said skinny bunny and you're not one of those" Then took her drink and walked off

I am . The guys serving in Starbucks thought it was hillarious. I want to set fire to her face , or, you know, find her and make some suitably scathing remarks back.

Aibu?

What a cow bag! You know YANBU!

YANBU - how horribly rude. Karma will get her. Hopefully she was shat on by a pigeon soon afterwards.

So, what, you think you're a rabbit?

No, of course it's not ok to make snide remarks to anyone, but it's not a big deal.

Omg!!! What a horrible person.
On the bright side, she has to live with herself, you only had to endure her for 2 minutes

'wow, did you mean to sound so rude?'

Says it all

Not a very nice comment and you are not being unreasonable.

Well I'm 40 +2 weeks pregnant & have now been told threes times that it's disgusting that I'm out & about (with my 2 yer old in this glorious weather, buying food etc to feed my family FFS!) & I should be at home because, quote 'no one wants to see that'. That being my actually rather neat, although quite large & fully covered (no skin in sight!) bump!

YANBU peoe like this should fuck right off!

People are horrific. What an evil bitch to feel the need to be hurtful to a complete stranger.

Recently a woman beside me at M&S pointed to the cashier's eyes and said something like 'your eyeshadow's awful, you should wash your face' and then just flounced off.

Oh my!Gaviscon That's an awful thing to say. Who cares what your bump looks like!! You enjoy it while you can.

And sqoosh I am at that woman's comment too.

I wish I'd pulled out the classic MN "did you mean to be so rude?"

I know I am not BU, but I wanted everyone to share in my outrage.

Gaviscon, sympathies - I'm 40+9 today, and while I was walking home yesterday evening (six bloody brisk miles across north London to see if I could make the baby think about coming!) with large but fully-covered bump, I had some dumb bloke drinking out of a beercan point and make 'Whoo!' noises to his braindead mates. He is now a sadder and wiser man.

OP, you're not being in the least unreasonable - If I'd been standing next to you in Starbucks, I'd have held your jacket and cheered while you clubbed her to death.

Thanks HardCheese I'll let you know the next time I'm in Starbucks. You let me know next time you're planning to pass some stupid men outside a pub - I'll return the favour!!

Did you mean to be so rude? Yes, that is what I should've said too! Much less rude than what I actually said...

Whilst hardcheese was holding your coat, I'd have been giving you tips on her vulnerable areas & generally cheering!

And yes, tried the long distance marching to no avail, but knackered toddler has been asleep for the past 2 hours so not all bad!

how did you not punch her?

You shouldn't be out with your disgusting bump? What is wrong with people?

When I was preggers I used to have the Brazilian staff in our canteen stroking and cooing over big belly and one lady (actually, she was quite young) gushed 'it is soooo beautiful!'. So why in the UK is it expected you wear a burkha?

God I would have "spilt" my drink on her out of sheer shock.

Fortunately, I didn't have my drink to "spill" on her.

In your case Gaviscon I'd have probably told her to fuck the fuck off. Please tell me that's what you said?

What is wrong with people? When I was 20 weeks pregnant with DS I encountered a shop assistant who did the "how long until baby is due?" routine. I told her and she said "bloody hell, you're massive!" Err...thanks.

Hobs I had that with dd, '4 months to go?! Good luck love!!!'

In each case it's been men in their 60s. I smiled sweetly and asked just how I was supposed to feed my family & keep my toddler entertained since I had no help as my lovely DH is working hard to fund your pension?

One grumbled something about 'in my day...' so I just stated loudly that things move on with each century :o bastards!

What a weirdo! I was in an hotel in Italy once with my friend and we were just checking in...two women walked in and began talking in German....they'd heard us speaking English and Italian and were commenting on my mates coat in German...my mate is fluent in German!

They said "Who does she think she is in that coat? She looks ridiculous!" (she did NOT look ridiculous...it was a beautiful grey suede coat)

and my friend answered "I think I am someone who speaks very good German you rude bitch."

She was possibly SN?

awkward same happened to my coz and me in Milan (she is fl in Italian) fecking waiters said, "let them wait..they are only tourists"

OH MY GOD they wet their leeetle panties when she replied and told them that her Sicilian husband would be round to teach them some manners, later.

What a rude woman, even worse that people around you were laughing.

Amazing and rude, but then half our popular culture involves judging others for amusement.

"I'm surprised you're drawing attention to yourself with a face like that" is what you say next time.

I was in sainsburys once and they had these cute little toy monkeys on offer so I picked one up as a little jokey present for my dh as he loves monkeys and he often jokes that he looks a bit like a chimp. When I was going through checkout the lady serving commented on how cute it was and asked who it was for so I told her it was for my dh and joked that it looked like him a little. She then said "well you look like a gorilla" ! I did not know what to say to that so just paid and hurredly left

A word to the wise...

Never leave home without a smart retort in your pocket.

Or a good uppercut....