or is it actually not okay to make snide remarks about a stranger's appearance?

[Hobs]

I was in Starbucks this afternoon, at the counter waiting for my drink, with a woman standing next to me. She kept staring at my tshirt.

When I caught her eye she gave me a look and asked what my t-shirt said.

It's a white outdoorsy t-shirt with a pink bunny on the front made up of the words "ski bunny" written over and over again.

I said "it says ski bunny"

She broke out into a grin and said "oh, that's good. I thought it said skinny bunny and you're not one of those" Then took her drink and walked off

I am . The guys serving in Starbucks thought it was hillarious. I want to set fire to her face , or, you know, find her and make some suitably scathing remarks back.

Aibu?

bigmouth I admit to sharing my thoughts with my husband or whomever I'm out with. I would, of course, never share them with the person I was commenting about and certainly wouldn't do it within earshot.

world - actually I think what you have described is quite rude - Obviously it is not the crime of the century and you have the freedom to say what you like BUT in my opinion, making snide remarks out of earshot when you are still saying them out loud to your companion reflects more badly on the sayer than the subject.

I genuinely do not comment on peoples looks when out, I will comment on behaviour. I will be sarcastically over-polite to someone pushing past me through a doorway (for e.g.). I am very concious that I do not want my children growing up thinking that bitching about other peoples VPL's (or whatever) is an acceptable behaviour or mind set.

My DH on the other hand is a massive bitch sometimes - and I get wound up (purposefully on his part I think) by his comments on other folk... perhaps I am too sensetive and should lighten up, but have always felt people who are happy to bitch about others come across as rather insecure themselves.

I don't think I ever really do think those things about people world. I just don't really give enough of a shit about what other people look like.

If I see someone wearing something I really like, i might comment on it or think "that person looks awesome" but rarely, if ever the negative comments.

If it's HusbandHobs or one of my family/friends asking me how they look I might comment and say "no that's not very flattering, I wouldn't" but never to a total stranger.

I cannot believe the stories of rudeness you lot are sharing with me. Some people are SO rude!!

And I'm loving the response to the standard MN retort!

YANBU. And I think it's a sad world when we think that thinking unkind thoughts about other people is routine too. Of course it happens, but we can try to cut other people a bit more slack... can't we?

Ideally, I would have made a quick retort about her inability to read whilst standing at close quarters. Would have hinted strongly at her being illiterate.

In reality, I probably would have stood there gobsmacked and embarrassed.

well remembered and great reaction! I also like Buppers' response but would never be able to pull that one off - I'd probably get some kind of "pot, kettle" response if I tried it.

I admit to sometimes thinking judgey thoughts, especially about low-slung jeans etc. on young men, or excessively tight clothing on people whom it doesn't flatter; but I wouldn't ever say it out loud, and certainly not to their face!!

AwkwardMary - brava to your friend - excellent response! And to taxiforme's cousin as well.