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Supersize v superkinny. DD is 8, a little bit overweight with a liking for all things bad for you. Won't eat fruit and veg, only under duress. Am I wrong to let her watch this programme?

Well that was pretty offensive knitpicker. I think that barring the odd one or two we have all been very supportive and tried to help upsticks.

I for one do not like being lumped in as a person who doesn't understand!!

Sorry - no offense meant

Very tricky.

My DSS and one of my DTs both have huge appetites, DSS will eat the same for his dinner as his 6ft 4 14 stone dad! To fill the boys up, I always whack on extra veg/rice/potatoes. DSS is very slim, I pre warn parents about how mich he eats before playdates but they are still always suprised! Hes an active boy though.

Also, looks at the meals you feed- mine (4dc) all love salad and bread but it takes so much of it to fill them, I only really do it if they're had big lunches or not much activity that day. So a big bowl of stew with green veggies and sweet potatoes/pasta with veggie sauce fills them more IYSWIM.

My DN is 9 and very overweight, I really feel for her as she's clearly miserable about it but her M (my Sil) is dismissive of it and says she's big boned. She's not. When I have her round for tea (2-3 x a week) she does eat dead fast, and doesn't seem to enjoy the social part of the meal.

Maybe an idea to slow DD down eating so that she registers when she is full?

OP - you say when you shop you buy a mixture of healthy food and treats.

We don't buy treats when we do the food shop. We take the kids to the corner store to choose a treat (chocolate bar or ice cream), or they have something when we are out. Treats are really treats in our house.

Keep snacks to a minimum and healthy where possible. I just don't buy crisps, fizzy drinks etc. because if they are in the house then they will pester me. Just keep active and healthy and I'm sure she will be fine.

Any talk of diets is defiantly a bad idea , young girls have enough self esteem issues and I'm sure her awareness of being fat or thin will come soon enough.

I read these tips for a speedy eater so that they have time to feel full;

Sit them down as you are finishing off in the kitchen and give them a large glass of water to drink

serve them a portion - your DD1 would get a bigger portion than dd2

seconds in only served when both have finished - even if DD2 doesn't want anymore it will slow DD1 down

Offer a fruit and dessert but slow it down (so offer the yoghurt first and don't start to prepare the fruit until it is eaten)

I also agree that bulking food out with veg is a good idea. I have managed to widen DS's variety of veg by putting 2 pieces on his plate. He can only move on once he tries one piece. If he goes on to have the second I know I'm onto a winner! If he doesn't I do the same a few weeks later. he started eating a couple of different veg and now he eats about 8 so we are getting there!