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To let dd watch ...

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Upsticksandgo · 27/03/2012 20:13

Supersize v superkinny. DD is 8, a little bit overweight with a liking for all things bad for you. Won't eat fruit and veg, only under duress. Am I wrong to let her watch this programme?

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TheOneWithTheHair · 27/03/2012 22:05

Did you read the thread WibblyBibble? Op did not say her child was a fussy eater and nobody said anything about fad diets. In fact she has been advised NOT to make any issues with her dd about it let alone starting 'fat-hysteria'.

Cherriesarelovely · 27/03/2012 23:27

I don't think the OP is "starting fat-hysteria" at all WibblyBibble and would you really take your child to the Dr if you just thought they had a bit of a tummy? I think that is a more hysterical approach tbh!

ComposHat · 28/03/2012 00:36

I thought it was going to be something really bad like Last Tango in Paris or summat. Mind you none of the butter gets eaten in that film!

fluffiphlox · 28/03/2012 09:09

The programme is typical of the Channel 4 freak showery. I'm not sure you should be watching it!

NakedButNotFamous · 28/03/2012 09:39

I like the show. It shows exactly what goes into foods and what health problems you will get if you go too fat or skinny. Was a real eye opener. I really hate it when people say a show is trash tv when they haven't even watched it. If it was on BBC would that make it better?

Kayano · 28/03/2012 09:43

I live in the same street as that obese 8 year old who nearly
Got taken from his
Parents...

You need to do something to
Get
The healthy food
Message across IMO but not
Too pushy...

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Upsticksandgo · 28/03/2012 09:50

Deary me Wibbly why get your knickers in such a twist? I never mentioned fad diets or fat hysteria. I have also tried all the suggestions of which you speak - what made you assume I hadn't?

My DD is fit and healthy. She has a huge appetite and is showing a bit of a tummy due to this. I am looking for ways to manage it. She (as I am sure other kids) would eat 'rubbish' all day. It is very hard work trying to make her see what is healthy and what isn't. I am sure she will get there as we set a good example with what we eat at home.

DD2 is very thin, so I do think it has to do with genes also. She is being brought up the same - same attitude to food and activity. She just never finishes a meal and we have to try and make her eat (otherwise DD1 will hoover her plate!).

I like the programme too Naked - it really makes me think twice about what I eat and feed my children.

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MissMogwi · 28/03/2012 09:51

Off topic but Kayano your posts are always like a lovely haiku.

gabid · 28/03/2012 09:59

No way!

Get rid of most of the things bad for you in the family diet/house, she will have to eat something.

I think at age 8, this may be your last change to get her into good habits as she will soon be more and more independent, out without you and trying to get a teenager to eat more healthily, I don't want to try it.

gabid · 28/03/2012 10:13

Your DD hasn't got a problem! You are having a problem with you DD's little belly. Grow up, really! Otherwise you will be creating a problem for her before too long as she will pick up on your worries.

My mum did that and I remember it well. She always was on about not eating too much, 'oh, not another piece of cake' ... She always thought I should loose a bit of weight (my mum always tried to loose weight). When I look at photos of that time, I was not really overweight, just a well fed child. However, before too long I was weighing myself, going on funny diets (Atkins) and all that way before puberty!

What I am trying to say is, do not worry and/or pass you worries on to your DD. Just feed her good healty stuff and keep her active. She is growing and might shoot up soon and be a skinny teenager, very likely if she is so active.

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Upsticksandgo · 28/03/2012 10:19

Thanks gabid. I know I worry too much. You can see her belly though when she is wearing tops and leggings etc - it is noticeable. She does for the most though look like a well fed child !! As you say, I want to make sure she knows what is good/bad for when she is a teenager when I will have less control.

I am really trying not to create a problem for her like you say. It is a fine line though of letting her eat what she wants and watching what she eats.

Anyway, she didn't watch the programme

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tantrumsandballoons · 28/03/2012 10:25

As long as the food she is eating is healthy and she is active, I dont think you really need to worry at this point.

If you posted saying all she will eat is chocolate, crisps and ice cream and never moves off the sofa then you would have a problem but tbh I'd rather have an 8 y o with a good appetite, eating healthy food and involved in sports than an 8 y o that will not eat anything

gabid · 28/03/2012 10:27

Sorry, OP, it just makes me a bit angy when I hear a parent worrying about 'a little belly' and whether it shows.

All this created huge problems for me. In my late teens I became obsessed with weight and was bulimic for 2 years - lost years in my opinion, as was depressed, I had no friends and food was all I could think about.

Its serious and can be very dangerous - a 'little belly' is not!

Kayano · 28/03/2012 10:27

MOGWI

It's due to my iphone and my fat thumbs from not watching supersize v super skinny as a child

GeekCool · 28/03/2012 10:32

Does she drink enough water? Thirst is easily confused with hunger.

If it makes you feel better, I was chubby as a child, had a bit of a tummy. I hit 5 feet 9 by the time I was 12 and the stretch evened me out. I stayed the same weight right up until pregnancy and was a 10. I just had to grow into it if that makes sense.

startail · 28/03/2012 10:34

Squeakytoy feel free to defuss DD2 for me

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Upsticksandgo · 28/03/2012 10:37

Startail - you may be right. She is very tall and chunky for her age. I think she will grow into it.

Sometimes I don't think she is hungry - it's more greed tbh.

She injured herself in school yesterday trying to get to the 'bun sale' before everyone else

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WorraLiberty · 28/03/2012 10:46

The thing is we keep her really active, football, netball, dance, walking everywhere etc

Those are all organised activities and are probably only an hour or so at a time.

Does she play out in the street?

When I was a kid we played out the minute we got home from school...shot in for dinner and then played out again.

My kids are the same now and certainly with the lighter evenings ahead.

You'd be surprised how much energy they need to burn off even after a hard day at school....a few organised activities and walking everywhere really doesn't cut it.

I think we tend to forget that nowadays and that's what's adding to the obesity problem.

fluffiphlox · 28/03/2012 10:49

Hello everyone! Especially naked. I made a flippant comment about the programme and the inference was taken that I hadn't seen it. I have actually seen it - it's the sort of thing I end up watching when I'm in hotels midweek. Of course adults can watch whatever they like. However, I don't think if a little girl has a bit of a pot belly that watching an adult programme is an answer. Not all little girls are skinny, not all women have flat stomachs even if they are slim. Please don't make her too conscious of it, it may mess with her head long term. I know of what I speak and have posted before about how I came to believe quite young that my parents' love and approval was conditional on the way I looked. It wasn't actually true but it was how I felt

fluffiphlox · 28/03/2012 10:50

shot in for dinner, Worra?

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Upsticksandgo · 28/03/2012 10:53

worra - thanks. We live on a main road so she can't play out. It is a great bug bear for me, for as a child we played out every night and my DDs can't do that.

They do play outside most nights, slides trampoline etc as we have a large garden, but I do wish they could play outside on bikes/scooters etc. Short of moving house though (which isn't a possibility) I'm stuck with the situation.

DH takes her on long bike rides at weekends (DD2 is a still a big young too whingy to go).

We do try our best with what we have availalbe, but I do so wish they could play out more - you are very right.

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WorraLiberty · 28/03/2012 10:55

fluffi yes?

OP, can't you supervise them while they play out?

Mind you, I suppose after school is your busiest time what with dinner etc...

Hoebag · 28/03/2012 10:56

Erm, dunno that programme is very exploitative.

plus is there anything you could change/dp could change??

my parents never ate healthily or set a good example now me and my sister both have weight problems and growing up she never out the 2 together, 'becasue she was a slim teen?

Mumsyblouse · 28/03/2012 10:57

These programmes 'The Biggest Loser' and 'Supersize and Superskinny' are advertised all the time, so even if you stop your children from watching them, which I do, they know they exist and have absorbed the message that weight is a big deal. My ban on 'The Biggest Loser' seems to have had the opposite effect, and I caught my dd (8) watching it secretly when I was putting her sister to bed. Getting cross at her has now reinforced that there's something very interesting in these programmes.

I don't know what the answer is.

fluffiphlox · 28/03/2012 10:58

Oh worra I'm completely addled, I misread your original as meaning shout and thought it was a funny typo. I think it best to let me type away and just ignore my meanderings

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