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Would you take offence at comment from so called friend?

64 replies

Tania3376 · 26/03/2012 14:54

My mate is well off. Husband working in a city job, she works too in a well paid accountancy role. Her children wear Boden, and Monsoon and she does too. She makes a big deal when she buys their seasonal wardrobes each year and we all know about it.

I don't have much money. We're on a budget. She keeps calling me the bargain hunter when we go out together. We had a shopping trip recently and she brought another friend along and they wanted to shop in house of frazer and white stuff. I went in primark and h and m, and when we'd been in their shops and went into my shops she kept saying lets go into bargain hunter's shops now. I found some reduced clothes for my DD for the summer in primark and she kept saying look what the bargain hunter's got, oh you are really good at looking for bargains, we haven't got the time or inclination have we? to her other friend.

She has also made digs at me before because I shop at Asda and not waitrose or sainsburys, saying again she wishes she had the time and inclination to go round all the cheaper shops.

Is she being a bitch?

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fionabruise · 26/03/2012 14:55

I'd tell her to FRO

hellsbells76 · 26/03/2012 14:56

Why on earth do you go shopping with her at all? Doesn't sound like my idea of fun.

grograg · 26/03/2012 14:57

She doesn't sound like much of a friend.

squoosh · 26/03/2012 14:57

Is she being a bitch?

Yes she is.

Get rid.

KatAndKit · 26/03/2012 14:58

She is being a bitch. She doesn't need to say anything but she wants to draw attention to the fact that you don't have as much money as her. She is doing it in a way that is hard for you to take offence at as she would say she is complimenting you on your savvy shopping skills. But really she is being a bitch. Bollocks about time and inclination comment. Shopping in White Stuff takes the same amount of time as shopping in Primark. She is a nasty cow by the sounds of it.

cocolepew · 26/03/2012 14:58

Bitch? Yes.

Imnotaslimjim · 26/03/2012 14:58

She sounds like a right cow. I'd be passing my own comments as she shops "Wow, I could feed my family for the week on what you've just spent on that dress" but to be honest, I don't think she'd get the irony!

Is there a reason why she is your friend?

Scholes34 · 26/03/2012 14:58

Just don't go shopping with her.

EmptyCrispPackets · 26/03/2012 14:58

She does sound like a cow, is she like this when friends aren't around? Wonder if she likes to show off a bit too.

bringbacksideburns · 26/03/2012 14:58

Yes. And a knobber. Don't go shopping with her again.

Tania3376 · 26/03/2012 14:58

she seems to look down her nose at me and my husband and children a lot.

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lisaro · 26/03/2012 14:59

She sounds very insecure. does she come from a very deprived background? (not that that's any excuse to be so rude)

Tee2072 · 26/03/2012 15:00

Why are you friends with her? And if you have to be friends, why do you go shopping with her?

KatAndKit · 26/03/2012 15:00

Why have anything to do with her if she looks down her nose at you and your family? spend time with people who are less stuck up.

Tania3376 · 26/03/2012 15:00

she also said once that she had lots of clothes her girls had grown out of, they are both older than my DD, but said she had passed them on to the friend we shopped with as she appreciates the brands and is fussy about what her children wear

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Tania3376 · 26/03/2012 15:00

No just a normal working class background lisaro

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NettoSuperstar · 26/03/2012 15:01

She's a cow, tell her to fuck right off.

SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 26/03/2012 15:01

i'd not be going shopping with her again.
yes she is definitely being a bitch.
and worse, because if you were to call her on it she would say she is being complimentary.

Ruggybug · 26/03/2012 15:01

Why on earth are you friends with such a nasty cow?
FWIW I think if she's so happy in her little glamorous life she wouldn't give a flying f"*k where you shopped!
Most people I've met or known who come from lots of money don't care for designer things and if they do they don't flaunt it and most certainly don't make less well-off people feel inferior(which is what this 'friend' sounds like she's doing).

Please do yourself a favour and get rid of this 'friend'.Life is short.

harrietlichman · 26/03/2012 15:02

She sounds horrible - I would be beyond offended if I were you. Drop her like a stone.

chandellina · 26/03/2012 15:02

yanbu. and i get loads of DCs and my own clothes in Primark and H&M despite being able to "afford" to spend more - pretty much same stuff as you get elsewhere so why pay more. She sounds like a real snob. Maybe you could call her the More Money Than Sense-r?

KatAndKit · 26/03/2012 15:02

That is even ruder! Appreciates the brands my arse. That means that you don't deserve her posh cast offs because you dress your kids in any old rags.

MotherMucca · 26/03/2012 15:02

She sounds like a horror.

Leave the bastard

fussbucket · 26/03/2012 15:02

Was still trying to make excuses for her until your 15.00.13 post.

Time for new friends!

AnyFucker · 26/03/2012 15:04

with friends like this ?.....