Ungrateful, spoilt, presumptious, self-entitled......

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and I'm not talking about a bratty teenager, either. This is a 46 year old -adult-.
Dh's birthday next week and I asked him what he would like from me and the DCs. He informed me that he had his eye on a specific item and had "bookmarked it for me on my laptop"
I was a bit surprised to say the least because it was quite pricey (£125.00), slightly more than I had in mind, and I felt a bit that he had actually bookmarked it. This slapped, I felt, of greed. I mean, it's not like a milestone birthday, not like a 50th for example. And, in the present financial climate, especially mine, a bit much.

Anyway, I mulled it over for a few days, then thought OK, anticipating his delight when he unwrapped it on the day.
It was delivered today (quite large) and he was home when it arrived so I couldn't hide it from him.
So, I took it out of the box and stood back, waiting for him to thank me for my generosity. He opened his mouth and......
1st, it wasn't the exact same colour as in the picture.
2nd, it wasnt as good quality as he was expecting.
3rd, he didn't think it was going to be big enough.
"It'll do", were his exact words.
I feel gutted, and cannot believe how I have managed to bag myself someone who is so bloody ungrateful, insensitive, self-entitled.
I am not even going to ask if IABU to let this bother me, just need to rant.
Oh, and when I asked him to jokingly guess what was in the box, he said he knew what it was, because that is what he had told me he wanted. Just bloody assumed I would get it. Did'nt even have the bloody decency to pretend suprise, or say thankyou.
Wish I'd just got him a cheap box of chocs now!
TWAT

My netbook had just died and I thought it would be "greedy" of me to ask for a new one.

Send back.
Buy netbook.

Problem solved.

Personally I'd leave him just for playing golf.

Try saying "that'll do, I suppose" after you have sex with him...although frankly, I'd never go near him again.

Sex??? He's got no chance now.
As for the netbook, I am currently paying x amount per month on a new one.
My heckles are starting to rise again.
I really do need to start being as utterly selfish as he is don't I?

Send it BACK!!!!!!!!

Why haven't you?? Don't reward Brattish arseholian behaviour!

Why would you become as selfish as him?

Just stop buying stuff for him.

And let him sort his own family out.

Maybe we´re odd, but we haven´t bought each other or parents presents for years.

If we happen to see something suitable at the time then we get it.

If not, it´s a card/phone call/visit.

I definitely wouldn't be bothering to buy him anything again! I would also send it back if he doesn't like it and get your money back.

Don't you think you're enabling his behaviour a bit though, with posting jokey 'rants' instead of saying anything to him about his rude behaviour towards you. And the fact that you're intending to buy him presents in the future despite him not even bothering to say thank you for this one.

The whole thing sounds a bit odd to me anyway. If he's that particular about exactly what he wants, why doesn't he just buy it himself? Not sure I really get this whole thing of married partners demanding expensive presents from each other anyway. Do you not have shared finances?

I don't think you need to become selfish, you just need to make it clear that you won't be walked all over like this.

Why are you buying his family presents from your personal money? What does 'personal money' mean in this context?

So you spoke to him and he didn't seem to understand that he had upset you or maybe even why.

Could you try speaking to him again, when you have time to have a proper conversation and tell him, calmly how his reaction made you feel.

I think his reaction does sound entitled and twattish. I also think you need to communicate how his behaviour makes you feel. You need to make your needs known to him and not expect him to understand what you want/need just because something is obviously irritating to you.

If he won't listen then you have a problem that is far, far greater than a lack of gratitude over a golf bag.

" He's a tosser.
And he plays golf.
Dear God. "

The two are usually inextricably entwined.

Personally, I'd be inclined to parcel the golf bag up and send it back. Ideally with your ungrateful DH inside it. However, recognising that it is probably "not big enough" to make a properly tidy job of things, I'd ensure he fitted inside it by cutting off any superfluous parts of him first. I know which one I'd start with...

I agree that there does seem to be a definite link between golfers and twats.
Having been unlucky enough to have been to a "Do" at the golf club restaurant, I noted that all his golfing companions are also tossers. However, so are the lady golfers too!
Golfers in general seem to be selfish tossers, male or female.

Return it and get the PS3 for your DS. A golf bag! Does the bloody colour matter?