Annoyed by friend's cheering up tactics

[ClaireFromWork]

I have a friend who, whenever the proverbial hits the fan, will send texts and saccharin photos of her DC doing something (e.g. on a swing, dressing up, choc smeared over face, smiling cutely). Now I am very fond of the DC in question but something about this irks me.

Last Friday I had a car crash (some idiot ploughed through a red light at a crossroad and went right into the drivers side, where I was) and was at home the next day just recovering and feeling quite shaken and tearful. Not really able to cope with my own kids and DH was trying to keep them calm and quiet, taking them out so I could just recover and get myself back together.

Friend texts me with "Hope ur OK. Here's a pic to cheer you up LOL" and there's a pic her DC going down a slide together.

Now I'm fond of her DC and really enjoy their company, but why does she think that when I'm feeling crappola I have any interest in cheesy pics of them.

I'd much prefer that she bloody well rang me and actually asked me how I was properly. It is now at the point that I dread her texts whenever something lairy's gone on because it puts me in a position of having to coo and ahhh over the cuteness of her DC when in actual fact I'm in a totally different place at that point.

Suspect a flaming coming as it's AIBU, but be gentle as I still feel bashed up.

shreddedmum - are you ellie's godmum? Did you say "can Ellie help me unpack?"

YANBU. The picture-sending is all about her.

NO I'm not anything to ellie , was friends with her mum for a while is all!

Wouldn't want her round to help thanks! She brought ellie round for my week old newborn to meet and ellie wiped her adorable snot ALL OVER the arm of my sofa and we had to talk about Ellie for half an hour before she finally left and I could get back to concentrating on my new baby again!

YANBU. A funny picture to cheer you up might be better. When I was a bit sad because I was moving PFB into his room for the first time, my friends all sent me nice sugary hunny messages, apart from one friend who felt it was the appropriate time to send me a photo of a penis wearing a shoe.

Frankly I think cheering up is over-rated. Cheering up is usually the other person's way to bump you back into their world so they don't have to bother to listen/empathise.

A little sympathy and a listening ear can be a lot more helpful than a funny pxt when you're feeling stressed.

"Frankly I think cheering up is over-rated"

agree completely, the true friends are the ones who let you be miserable when you need to be (up to a point, then if it goes on for weeks true friends kick you up the arse)