to think too many people on here are too obsessed with other peoples' money?

[wannaBe]

it's getting rather tedious..

too many threads complaining about what other people earn/spend/opinionating on if you can afford x and y then you must be rich, and if you can't then you're not, and on and on and on.

Really, who cares?

Why does it bother people so much how much other people have?

If you're happy, what does it matter? If you're not, and don't have enough money, being bitter about other people isn't going to change that.

Can't we just move on from obsessing about other peoples' money?

I don't know wannabe, we are in a recession and life has been incredibly hard for alot of people over the last few years and if you are one of those people who lost your job at the beginning of the 'credit crunch' and have been unfortunate enough to lose another job and every day is a constant struggle, then yes it is bound to sting when you read about how people have been unaffected. I don't think it's necessarily jealousy, I think people should be a bit more self aware about what has been happening and what is happening to the vast majority of people and families in this current climate. Things are really tough.

I have missed all the thread though such is life

I don't agree that people exasperate their problems either. I am in the unfortunate position that I have to care for one of my children because she has severe and complex learning, physical and medical disabilities. It hinders my opportunities financially more than many of you would be able to comprehend and I don't mean that snottily, I mean it as in you really haven't got a clue how all consuming it is caring for someone with such needs, without any other support, unless you have been in that position. I read a thread a few weeks ago saying 'well their children go to special school, the parents should be working' as though it is that simple! All it did was show the ignorance to the level of care needed to look after and care for such dependents (whatever age) and lets face it as a mainly female orientated board that should be a view we all tackle, as the vast majority of carers are women.

Yes, I agree Agincourt; 2 of mine are at SNU placements and it is frankly- complex to manage. Even little things like having 4 kids at different schools equals four sets of inset days, that's quite tough! then no CM can manage to be at home for the Taxi whilst simultaneously picking up the other charges from school - the Cm we use for ds4 is good, but not that good that she can be in two places at once! taxi used to drop outside school but Police called a halt as it blocks traffic if I am even 1 minute later picking ds4 uip (eg he is tired or upset).

Then reviews, appts, etc.....

I don't think I feel jealous of people with more money though, even though I know some people, eg my sister, expect me to feel it to the extent she automatically reads everything I say as that (as anyone who was on my FB during the famous 'Drunk Sister Intervention incident knows ). All I worry about is people who assume I have done nothing to get out of this poverty and I can never have worked or been educated in any way whatsoever. or that carers can simply use the nearest CM like anyone else- all views I have had thrown at me.

I resent autism, it has taken a lot from my boys and us, but I don't resent people making the best of their own lives- as we do ours.

sancti I've said it before and I'll say it agin, your own and your DH's reactions to your bad luck are inspirational. And I firmly believe that they will ultimately bring you everything you deserve.

You clearly have a fighting spirit and faced your challenges in a positive manner.

Now I'm not saying everyone can be as exemplary as you, but I do think some people take a difficult situation and make it impossible.

I've seen folk on here and in real life who are on the bones of their arses financially and at their wits end with what they can cope with...yet they still go ahead and have another child. I cannot comprehend how they can't see that this will just make their stretched resources snap.

I mean, I'm bloody Pollyanna, I am, but I hope I have enough self awareness to understand when I've got enough on my plate.

I get it actually (BTW we really are not that inspirational- we're pretty boring really, I am far more inspired by both our fathers who slogged at jobs they ahted and still do it into their late 60's); it's about trying to make the dreams you ahd come true whatever happens to you, about finding something stable and about absolute grit and having something that you can do, and do well, despite everything else seeming to collapse around you.

We are taught family is a constant and we can rely on it, and I assume if you can genuinely see no way out then you revert to what you know- family, survival and getting by day to day.

Especially if you feel alienated by a world that seems to view you only in terms of your financial input- make people feel they have a future and they might plan children around finances or the assumption that waiting pays off; leave people to feel this is as good as it gets, add in a bit of biology (I know some people feel the drive to reporduce differently but for some- me included- it is very strong) and you get no reason whatsoever to hold back.