aaaargh! Stupid baby gender bollocks comments

[hohumplumbum]

I want to lamp my MIL and SILs around their heads on their constant: 'we'd love a girl, hope it's a girl, we have too many boys in this family, oooh I want a girl' endless.fucking.chatter.

(This is my first baby and I don't give a shiny shit what gender the baby is)

They have said this every time I have seen them in the last three bastard months. I am not finding out the sex before birth.

AIBU to want to lamp them/scream in their faces to STFU/run away/all of the above?

Lamp them? Erm yes just a tad unreasonable there....

meh meh meh

YANBU but dont let their insensitive comments spoil the excitement of your pregnancy.

Have you had your 16w scan yet? If not you should just pretend that you did find out and that it is a boy - that will shut them up for the next 24 weeks for you!

No, YANBU. What are they going to do if you have a boy? I would ask them if they would like you to establish the gender and look into termination or adoption if it's a boy. That'll shut them up, thoughtless arses. Congrats on your pregnancy, babies are lovely, even boys!

That's what I keep thinking. Shall I send the child back if it has a penis?
I am half tempted if it is a boy to say 'well, shame you didn't get what you wanted now stay away from me forever.'

Look, I'm not actually going to get violent FFS. But I feel it sometimes. Which isn't a crime last time I checked.

yanbu.

unless there is a gentic disorder that effect one gender, then it really doesn't matter what gender the baby is it

You could do the opposite of the Blackadder thing, and say "It's a girl! A girl with a winkle!! A miracle!!!!!"

(And no, YANBU. Even for the lamping them bit). x

Yanbu.

My friend said to me recently 'I'm really lucky because now I have dd it doesn't matter what I have next time.' I have two gorgeous ds. The implication made me very

Boys or girls, all are perfect.

good idea about scan. I'm so going to do that you know.

Congrats OP!

LOL at what chunk said! I think you should do that too!!!

Or just go to your 20 wk scan and then refer to your bump as "Geoff" for the next 20 weeks.

Might be worth respectfully reminding them you are very grateful to be having a healthy pregnancy and you don't give a monkeys about the sex and neither should they.

Good Luck with them!

p.s. YANBU!!

I was the same, so I think you are not being unreasonable!

Not that the comments have stopped now DS is here... At less than 24 hours after his arrival relatives were demanding that we produce a girl 'next time'. Luckily for them I was too exhausted to throw stuff or similar.

Oh and congrats on your pregnancy!

I had it a bit the other way round from my fil etc and it pissed me off to no end - you have my sympathy and YANBU at all.
Good suggestion - tell them you found out and sorry but it's a boy. There is no guarantee that they won't turn around and say maybe next time!
Enjoy yourself and ignore fools! (i sound like mr T )

My DD was adamant that DC1 was a boy. As he has a history of MH issues, I decided to find out the sex of the baby, so that he could be prepared if we were having a girl. In fact he was right and DC was a boy!
If you don't want to find out the sex of the baby, then don't. However, if you aren't too bothered, then it may make your life easier in the next few months, whether the baby is a DS or DD.
Either way, hope it all goes well.

YANBU.

I am expecting DD2, and have had more "Aw, shame" and "Never mind, you can try again"s than I can shake a stick at.

Maybe we should swap families for a bit?

:o MaMattoo

Alas girls are just the preferred gender. If you have a boy you can expect comments along the following:

'Oh your baby is very bright and alert. For a boy.'

'I'm glad I got a girl, they are much better and more fun than boys.'

'Girls are just cuter than boys aren't they?'

'Typical lazy boy' (said about my then 24month DS by a stranger because he wasn't yet potty trained.)

Not that I'm bitter or fed up with it myself at all!

tethersend - that sucks doesn't it. Congrats on expected DD2!

That's horrible fullofregrets, and all utter twaddle.

Being pregnant brings out the thick in other people sometimes

fullof - those comments are awful. I have DS (2) and fortunately have never had to endure anything like that wonders if it's because he has long hair and people think he's a girl

Little Boys Rock!!

As do little girls! ;)

Thanks ilove

I am friends with parents who have a child with SN. She needs full time care. She always will. More care as she gets older. To me, a healthy baby is what I hope for and dream of, not boy or girl. I see first hand how hard it is to cope when a child needs extra care. I see the heartache, the fight the parents have to get SNAs and medical assistance for her, the missed milestones, the worry about what will happen to her when they are elderly. I think this compounds my anger at these stupid remarks. Remarks about my child no less. And even though I keep saying 'i just hope for a healthy baby', they never let it drop.

No Stewie, FFS was aimed at second post