Hecubas, I don't think you are irresponsible at all, how can I? I dont know you. Please don't make assumptions about my opinions.
Nor am I part of any problem, but I will admit that I find it hard to believe that one family can have so little while claiming benefits while another can find themselves with more than enough to live on. Maybe I'm missing something, I don't know, and I don't know the benefits system well enough.
Surely you can see that there are people legitimately claiming all the benefits they are entitled to, who don't have to struggle significantly. That is what makes it understandably hard for someone in my position to think that a family genuinely have to choose between heat and food.
If you say that's what you have, I believe you, I have no reason not to. But there has to be some reason somewhere that means you have so little to live on, something that makes your situation different to that of other I know.
As Curiosity says, if you are above the threshold to get TCs, you can't be poor, or there must be some piece of the puzzle missing. My family is only just above the level to get TCs (as it stands at the moment) and we manage fine, even with growing children and a DH with high commuting costs.