ok so perhaps IABU, a bit of background first of all.
My brother is my Dads son only, however my Mum and Dad have been together since my brother (now mid 30's) was 18months old, he has never lived with us but he's always just been my big brother, relatively close, he took me to pubs etc before I was old enough to get in and generally has just been a big brother to me. He is now engaged to be married to a nice woman and their wedding is later this year. They have one lovely little boy who I am proud to call my nephew.
Ok so the wedding has been booked for 6 months or so and things are starting to come together,i got married last year so have offered to help in any way I can. Some offers have been accepted, others not, fair enough.
Ok so here is the AIBU, my brothers fiancé has intimated but not actually said out loud that both her sister and brothers daughters (one each) are to be bridesmaids and that is all they can really afford. I have a daughter of 8 and I know she'd be heartbroken if she knew the other bridesmaids were the bride and grooms nieces and she wasn't asked. I get the impression that the bride wants me to say that it's ok to leave my daughter out but I feel strongly that it really isn't ok. If my brother or his fiancé said to me 'We'd really love to have all the girls but we just can't afford it then I'd offer to pay for her dress etc no questions and no strings but I don't feel as though I can offer to do that without it being explicitly confirmed that they'd like her to be a part of the wedding, the same as their other nieces.
So AIBU?