Okay, this could take a while because it warrants quite a bit of explanation.
I'm involved with a group that follows a particular, unusual fashion, so unusual that generally when people get into it they form groups and hold meets. When I joined this group it had three members and they'd never had a meet. Also, I had just come from another group that I left due to infighting and bitchiness.
I galvanized the new group, added new members and organized their first meet, along with most of the meets that have happened since. We now have 33 members, including one guy, and they range in age from the youngest at fifteen to the oldest, me, at twenty-eight. There's a lot of different personalities and maturity levels but for the most part we all get along well. We do keep an eye out for bitchiness because the fashion as a whole inspires a lot of catty behavior.
Now onto the problem. The group had a meet yesterday that was their most successful so far, but I couldn't attend because I had something else on. There are two members of the group, sisters, that I had a falling out with a while back and they were at this meet, and both myself and the other girl involved with the falling out suspect they only went because I wasn't going to be there. Didn't really matter at the time, but apparently at the meet the subject of bitchiness in the community came up and they discussed it at length.
So, on our facebook page this morning, one of the admins changed the description of the page to the following:
"We are an awesome group of who aren't bitchy at all!!! All we want from a meet up is to have great craic!!!! We also go on meet ups around every second Sunday of the month!!!!! Join!!!! :D"
That's excusable, she's sixteen and a bit hyper. But I felt it was innappropriate for the description of our group since members of the other group might want to join and would feel put off by this. Two other girls agreed with me. But then, one of the girls I had the falling out with (let's call her F) wrote this:
" aaaw s was just too happy and hyper (cute) bout yesterday so she just wrote what on her mind its not like she using the b word all the time no point in making her change her post...and no body care really...and u have to make it sound like she did sumtin really bad that need to be punish."
This isn't the first time F or her sister has found reason to quibble something I've said on the group and I wouldn't mind if it was actually over something important but it's always over the most ridiculous things, like the days to hold meets that will suit everyone. I could have a provisional date up for ages and they'll debate on it just as everyone's agreed on the date. This is important though, the description is really offputting to any new members looking to join the group and F is objecting because she thinks I'm picking on the girl who posted it originally.
I've asked for a friend to back me up on this and she has, but the other members are burying their heads in the sand. I don't want to have to fight anyone for something so obvious and for something that everyone but F agrees on. Why do I have to be the bad guy?