to ask why on earth my thread was deleted?

[singlemumperceptions]

I asked a few questions about perceptions of single parents for my sociology assignment, whicanyh is to do with comparing the perception of single parents with the reality.

A very few people seemed to think I was being provocative. Most people were supportive and there were lots of interesting comments.

I now find that it's been deleted!?! What on earth? Compared to most of the stuff I read on AIBU it was completely tame and non-offensive stuff. Is it against the MN law to discuss single parents?

I am not a journalist, MNHQ can I'm sure see that I have been a regular mumsnetter for years. I was just trying to have a discussion about perceptions of single parent families. I am a single parent myself, I am a long term member of MN. I don't get it :(

Anyway, thank you to all those rational people who replied, luckily I had collected everyone's answers and will be able to use them in my assignment so your kind efforts weren't wasted

'not a goldfish bowl for people to utilise for their own purposes'.

there's a WORLD of unpicking in that statement.

Maryz, don't think thread is still there at all as it isn't coming up under soul sapping encounters threads I'm on.

Another rule I was not aware of sassy . However this exciting little episode has given me at least a paragraph on the problematic nature of questionnaires which is all to the good! Although I would argue that every poster on MN is using it for their 'own purposes' rather than the greater good.

Nooo, Spero, you're not getting it! See, there's us on this thread here - and that naice Olivia Mumsnet sitting in the corner with a red marker for when we get stuffs wrong - and we're HAVING THIS ROWCHAT IN PRIVATE! Dincha know? Duh

Then Justine, Head Of Mumsnet, can sell what we say. If she wants. Coz it's her room, innit.

It would have been better to ask first though, Mnet might be huge but they weren't always.

The Internet has made research too easy, there was once a time Shen you really had to put your self out there.

I've had work I did tears ago that was posted on a university website get plagiarised - I know you won't liken this to what you have done, but I felt very bitter that someone got an easy ride off my hard graft.

I'm sure if you asked mnet would've let you do it. Or if you had to pay sort out an arrangement

Shen - when
Tears -years

Maryz I posted it in the 2 locations on the suggestion of another poster, thinking it would be interesting to get the views from the 2 different boards. Wow, I really am scoring high on faux-pas bingo tonight!

No doubt the one on lone parents is still there because it wasn't reported by a slightly hysterical and self righteous fellow poster. I'm sure it will get zapped too any minute now....

I've already explained why I name changed, I'm sure you can understand that I wouldn't want my college tutor to by able to access every detail of my painful marriage breakup?

Spero, I am sending you a giant chocolate digestive. Here, catch.... mmmmmm dribble......

So am I in trouble for saying 'single parent' ?

I think you are only in trouble with some people Spero

Thanks for biscuit op. If only the petty small mindedness and rampant sticks up arses were imaginary too...

Yeh but these 'some people' are on first name terms with the moderators!

Damn.

Mumsnet would have a bumpy ride enforcing that copyright clause! They may say they own everything I write here, but I think they'll find they share that ownership with me.

I don't actually have anything to contribute on the topic of single parenthood but, if I wanted to give permission for somebody else to quote me, I reckon I could ... All it means is that Mumsnet don't need permission, it's implicit in posting here.

[Caveat: web developer, not a lawyer]

garlicbutter, I thought mumsnet claimed the right to use anything you say in anyway they wish and we agree to this by joining site?

(I am lawyer but not specialising in anything remotely useful or well paid)

I don't think they are that rigorous .... They let Matthew Wright pillage our posts weekly

Manners cost nowt though, regardless of relationship status.

Maryz, I can completely understand and sympathise with why op has used the phrase 'hysterical and self righteous'. 20% harsh but 80% accurate imho.

I'm sorry it was deleted.

It presented the opportunity to talk about the huge amount of misconceptions on who single parents are, and pointed to the statistics provided by Gingerbread.

I think it was a good opportunity to exonerate us single parents.

Yes, they have the right to use what we say, Spero - that's normal. What's less normal is this: "This Web site and its contents are copyright Mumsnet (with the exception of blogs ... . All rights reserved. Reproduction of all or any substantial part of the contents in any form is prohibited. No part of the site may be distributed or copied for any commercial purpose without express approval."

AFAIAW, The Law has now sorted itself out wrt social media:- copyright is shared with the creator. Mumsnet didn't request or commission my posts, did it? ( at the thought) And I doubt whether Mumsnet would take all the blame if I posted something massively illegal.

I don't use mnet for my own purposes. I use it as a wide open landscape to free sock puppets into the Internet ether.

"fly Maryz, be free...."

So I can't self publish a hilarious compendium of my best 'arse' comments on mumsnet without their express approval?

Yes, you can. You just say that you lifted the posts from your previously-existing pen-and-ink blog.

They took responsibility over us calling GF all sorts and refused adamantly to hand over personal details when the lawyers came calling .... So they do protect their posters at their own risk.

(I seem to have decided "Aware" begins with a W)