Is it rude of my cousin to do an Amazon wish list for her child's 1st birthday?

[AwkwardMary]

I mean isn't it rude and a bit pushy? She's not even having a party for her!

The child is 1 so its not like she's chosen the things....the things are very varied in price though so I suppose it's ok but to me it takes all the pleasure of choosing a gift....I like choosing gifts and do well at it....I take a lot of time over it and really like finding nice things.

I alwasy buy nice things and to just press a button on Amazon for a gift that I nevr picked seems crap.

Depends on your family dynamic. DD's cousins live in the States and DBil would always want to buy our DD something for her birthday. However they only see her once a year so don't really know what she's into. We put a few things up on Amazon which gives them a guide to what she'd like. Up to them what they choose and they may get a different brand if, for example, she's put up some trainers.

Similarly my mother doesn't have a clue (she is in her 80s) so is pleased to pick something off the list and get it delivered to her house so she can wrap it. She feels that is much better than just giving money.

I had one of these for me and my son for xmas, because I'm now a SAHM and so poor I cant afford to even buy myself jeans when the crotch has gone on the old ones! (Yeah, I look great lately! ) So I'd rather people spend £10 on something I need rather than something that I might only like.

My family are notorious for being rubbish gift givers though, and they acknowledge this too. They were pleased to get a list as it gave them an easy ride. I feel terrible thinking they might have seen me as 'pushy'

i have an amazon wish list for me, and for the dds. i consider it strictly as an aide memoire for things that i intend to buy myself and the girls come payday/christmas/birthdays. i have never asked anyone to look at it.

DH did tell BIL and SIl of the existence of the list last Christmas, and i was mortified. However, BIL's wife says that she definitely prefers to order from it, particularly as they live in far off lands.

That is beyond rude- plain presumptious!!

Nothing wrong with having your own wish list that may be referred to in case somebody calls and asks for suggestions, but I think your cousin is most certainly rude in her methods!

Why is there any need to send people a list anyway? By all means make your own private list of ideas, but then if anyone asks just send them some generalised suggestions or a couple of specific ideas, and say otherwise a surprise would be lovely. And thank them for asking!