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in thinking my MIL is being a bit bloody cheeky?

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MarkStretch · 09/03/2012 13:34

DH and I have just had our 3rd DC and DH has a DD from a previous relationship. We are trying really hard to save at the moment and pay as much off our mortgage as possible in order to hopefully be able to move to a bigger house in 2 or 3 years. Consequently we have been seriously 'cutting our cloth' accordingly.

MIL asked for a £30 pot of face cream for Mother's Day. DH explained that we wouldn't be able to afford to spend that much. I saw her today and she gave me a list of three kinds of bathroom scales (with the Argos catalogue numbers written next to them) she would like instead for Mother's Day, all of which cost £25.

God I'm fucked off.

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MyNameIsntFUCKINGWarren · 09/03/2012 13:36

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OhBuggerandArse · 09/03/2012 13:37

Treat it like a haggling situation in a bazaar? Choose some things in the Argos catalogue that cost £5 and give her a list of them to pick from, then maybe you can compromise on something for £10ish?

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 09/03/2012 13:37

YANBU - calling her cheeky is praising her!

pootlebug · 09/03/2012 13:38

No, she is being a lot bloody cheeky. Irrespective of your financial situation, demanding specific presents is cheeky full stop.

Sparklingbrook · 09/03/2012 13:38

£10 Argos voucher as a contribution. Cheeky MIL.

RuleBritannia · 09/03/2012 13:38

I've never known a Mothering Sunday gift list. For a wedding,m yes, but not for anything else. Cheek!

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 09/03/2012 13:38

Kinda depends. If you only see her once in a blue moon, she's being a bit cheeky. If she does tons of babysitting etc, you're mean. So, more info needed.

maybenow · 09/03/2012 13:38

cards only for mothers and fathers days in my family... and nice things like cups of tea or a lunch when appropriate.

Cherriesarelovely · 09/03/2012 13:38

It certainly sounds as if she is BU to me but it isn't normal in my family for people to ask for presents IYKWIM! I suppose if you had asked her to let you know what she wanted then that is slightly different but yes, I agree, I would find this very annoying and as MNetters would say "grabby"!

scarletforya · 09/03/2012 13:38

Give her an Argos voucher for a fiver, the grabby cow!

DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 09/03/2012 13:39

Ignore and get her a box of not too expensive chocolates. Can't stand grabbiness like that. If someone asks for some idea of what to get, fine. If they don't it's just plain rude to detail what you would like.

blackoutthesun · 09/03/2012 13:39

asda do them for about £2

Sparkletastic · 09/03/2012 13:39

Just a card for MIL this year methinks...

TimothyClaypoleLover · 09/03/2012 13:39

I hate people who, unprompted, present a list of things they want as presents at the best of times but for mothers day - FFS!

Agree with MyNameIsnt, get her a card and bunch of flowers. Your MIL is being incredibly cheeky, particularly given DH has explained the financial situation.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 09/03/2012 13:40

Ignore her and give her a card and a small box of chocolates or flowers. How cheeky to ASK for a Mothers Day gift!

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MarkStretch · 09/03/2012 13:41

OldLady- she has DS (3yrs old) every Friday. I must stress this is because SHE wants to have him for the day, I don't need her too. She doesn't drive so I take him over there (about a 20 min drive) and pick him up again.

I could so do without it. I would rather he was with me.

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CalmaLlamaDown · 09/03/2012 13:42

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Flisspaps · 09/03/2012 13:43

Flowers and a WeightWatchers magazine (instead of the scales).

Say you thought she must be (unnecessarily ) worried about her weight if she wanted a new set of scales, but as you couldn't afford them you wanted to contribute to her new healthy lifestyle in some way.

Bet she won't ask again next year.

ddubsgirl · 09/03/2012 13:43

bloody hell lucky if i get a card let alone anything else!

TimothyClaypoleLover · 09/03/2012 13:44

MarkStretch, same situation as you in that MIL has DD one day a week on her insistence, although obviously its a help to me. DH reckons it warrants more than just a card for mothers day so we are cooking her dinner as a thank you - could you do something like that which doesn't involve a price tag?

Sparklingbrook · 09/03/2012 13:45

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QuintessentialyHollow · 09/03/2012 13:47

She gave YOU a list?

Give her a card and some chocs and tell her your mum was really surprised and rather offended to receive bathroom scales!

Act tottaly breezy.

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MarkStretch · 09/03/2012 13:47

Timothy- it's a pain in the arse isn't it? I have to do all the driving about, he gets fed crap all day and sits and watches cbeebies non stop and comes back to me grumpy and high on sugar. I hate it. I'd rather he was playing in the garden at home or something.

We also have to take her food shopping every 2 weeks because her partner sold his car and she lives in a little village.

She should be buying me fucking presents.

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Floggingmolly · 09/03/2012 13:47

When did people start asking for gifts for Mothers Day? . I would usually say flowers and a card, but in your case just stick to the card.

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