Weddings Again

[RabidEchidna]

Next month I am going to DPS sisters wedding.
She has invited my DSs (even though they are not "blood family")
She ask her best friend to be bridesmaid,
And she and her husband to be have said no gifts,
DPs cousin will be taking her baby and his other cousins children were invited.
AIBU to be pissed off there is nothing for me to moan about? ...bad Rabid, naughty Rabid

YABU, you've not been yet so there is still time to find something to moan about .

Good point

Did she not even dictate what you should be wearing? The Cow

Bet the food will be crap.

No dress code demands no, and from the invite the food sounds divine,

Where is it though? Is it on your doorstep?

ahhhh but is there a seating arrangement.....

YABVU - Why aren't you complaining that you were not invited to be bridesmaid!! I mean don't you matter.

Oh good point lesley. Remember rabid, I had my SIL as bridesmaid.

Seating arrangements at his cousins wedding were lovely, sat with a mix of same age family members and interesting friends who made wonderful convocation,

It is in a lovely part of the world so we will have to travel but will spend the weekend with DPs parents at their home so no hotel costs involved.

I would not want to be a bridesmaid, been there done that

Their invites were hand made and beautiful....

Bugger it nothing I can think of nothing!

Feck That so bloody reasonable it's unreasonable.

DPs bloody family, when his first cousin got married she hired a whole stately home type thing for her wedding from Friday till Sunday and paid for everyone to stay there as the wedding was near Wales and people had to travel

Will there be a free bar?
Do you or your DP have any allergies and have they taken these into account?

Had she provided a detailed map of how to get there though? Will you get hideously lost and miss the wedding and arrive in time for your dinner to be cold, having had a massive row with dh and dss been sick in the car all over your dress?

Free drinks, yes, DP nut allergy will be catered for.
DS1 very odd about what he eats will be catered for...
I am really beginning to hate these people

Yes map on invite, although staying with DPs mum and Dad and wedding in local yacht club (we spend our summers there sailing so know it well)

Well if they are being so reasonable, maybe you need to be the unreasonable one?

Start off by phoning her frequently to have long conversations about catering and your DP's nut allergy. Laughingly apologise for going on about it so much...but explain apologetically that you are sure she can understand why you don't want your DP to die at her wedding.

Erm.... ooh I know. Have they callously made the assumption that you will remove your children during the ceremony if they (your dc, that is, not the b & g) make lots of unacceptable noise, even though this might mean you miss some of the ceremony?

Because that would be outrageous.

No they don't seem to mind child noise (although mine are 11 and 15) at cousins ones wedding a small boy banged a fork on the table the whole way through the speeches (I wont tell you what I said to the mother as I will get flamed )

And at cousin 2s wedding Cousin one baby son cried during the vows, no one batted an eye lid

Oh.

Blimey.

Erm...

Well, how about...

No. I'm done. They sound entirely reasonable. How disappointing

(You could tell us what you said to the fork-banger's mother though. Just for fun, like)

It may have been along the lines of... Madam if you do not remove that fork from your child I may just have to take it from him and stick it in your rather large backside

There's only one thing for it

Rabid we have to dye your hair green, stay there, I'll fetch the chemicals.

Excellent, Rabid. Extra marks for the use of the word 'madam'.