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Weddings Again

55 replies

RabidEchidna · 08/03/2012 08:02

Next month I am going to DPS sisters wedding.
She has invited my DSs (even though they are not "blood family")
She ask her best friend to be bridesmaid,
And she and her husband to be have said no gifts,
DPs cousin will be taking her baby and his other cousins children were invited.
AIBU to be pissed off there is nothing for me to moan about? Grin Grin Grin Grin...bad Rabid, naughty Rabid

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badtasteflump · 08/03/2012 09:40

But did she refer to them as 'not blood family'?

trumpton · 08/03/2012 09:45

If Rabid dyes her hair green may I please give her a Supersoaker to take with her. The children would have so much fun and it's all about the kiddies isn't it ??

Hecubasdaughter · 08/03/2012 09:49

Green? No no no lets go with a whole rainbow.

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RabidEchidna · 08/03/2012 10:02

no badtaste she did not refer to then as "not blood" family, in face DPs family have been lovely and accepting of DP bringing home a woman 8 years older then him with two children, they are even very nice to my Ex (who is still my best friend)

Green hair you say, I got married myself with slightly green hair due to an accident with home dye and my sister!

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badtasteflump · 08/03/2012 11:02
EdithWeston · 08/03/2012 11:07

But did the nephew have green hair? We never did find out, did we?

HeatSeekingMelons · 08/03/2012 12:07

I'm sure that the stag and hen do's will cause some isshhoos.

Grin
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RabidEchidna · 08/03/2012 14:37

Stag do all sorted, and includes an over night stay for DP, I shall not be going to the hen night as have other commitments, no fuss made

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angelpantser · 08/03/2012 14:43

Do you have to buy your own corsage/buttonhole?

Have they specified only certain brands of biodegradable confetti? Or rose petals carefully dried between the leaves of classic books from fairtrade roses only?

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RabidEchidna · 08/03/2012 15:12

No no stupid demands, just come be part of our day, enjoy it and be comfortable

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verytellytubby · 08/03/2012 15:13

Dump the toxic bitch Wink

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RabidEchidna · 08/03/2012 15:29

Ah do you think it is passive aggressive?
I mean no demands, no stupid banning of anyone, no big fuss, clearly this is not on...

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mummytime · 08/03/2012 15:49

She's obviously got a personality disorder!

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RabidEchidna · 08/03/2012 16:02

Maybe....

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MichaelaS · 08/03/2012 16:03

Wow, they sound horrible, almost as horrible as my friend who just sent out a save the date email. The email mentioned that unfortunately due to space limitations they would not be inviting everyone's extended families so if DPs or DCs were not specifically named on the (as yet unseen) invites they are not invited.

I had a quiet chat with her to say I understood and of course I could get a babysitter for our nearly 3yo DS (I am such a martyr) but I would not be able to leave the 5 week old newborn I will have by then and sorry if it's difficult but it would have to be both of us or neither (yes I know I am a doormat with ishoos).

The BITCH told me it was only kids they had never met they didn't want there, that they consider my son a friend and of course he would be invited along with his new brother too.

WIBU to send her a bill for the babysitter who I haven't even booked yet, to teach her a lesson? :-)

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RabidEchidna · 08/03/2012 16:22

MichaelaS Shock I am glad I am not alone in this, you need to find new friends, ones who will ban your children from their weddings like "normal" people Grin

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ChaoticAngel · 08/03/2012 19:13

Grin She's probably waiting until the day when you'll be told 5mins before the bride arrives that you have to tap dance down the aisle wearing a pink tutu Wink

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RabidEchidna · 08/03/2012 19:15

No, i really don't think so, she is far to level headed

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WorraLiberty · 08/03/2012 19:19

Have you checked the back of the invite to make sure it's recyclable?

I bet the tree murdering Bride-Zilla doesn't give a shit about wildlife Hmm

Haribos · 08/03/2012 19:19

What about money? Did she demand money as a gift with a stupid poem in the wedding invitation? That would be unreasonable of her - the cow.

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RabidEchidna · 08/03/2012 19:30

No No the invite (on recycled paper) clearly said no gifts.....

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RabidEchidna · 08/03/2012 19:30

Invites were hand made as well Hmm

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GavisconJunkie · 08/03/2012 19:35

I feel your pain rabid. I too received such an invitation from my lovely cousin only last week.

It was politely worded, timely, sounds like fun, there will be lots of DC there, rooms have been specially set aside for daytime naps for the youngers (and me bf a 6 week old).

The food choices are extensive and lovely, even more so for the children. Transport between church and reception, is provided and they've not asked us to follow a theme/colour scheme or anything.

What's more they have the cheek to say that they don't want any presents and really mean it.

I simply won't know what to complain about or how to act. When is yours? If it's first perhaps you could fill me in on etiquette.

WorraLiberty · 08/03/2012 19:36

Right then I think we need to organise an MN coach outing to this wedding and bloody well find something for you to moan about!

GavisconJunkie · 08/03/2012 19:36

Oh, and a free bar - hold on that's it!!! How inconsiderate, I'll be bf'ing!

Phew, that feels better.

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