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to be just a little bit tempted?

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WetTheMogwai · 04/03/2012 21:15

Ive just been offered the chance to star in 3 porn films and be payed £15k per film for the privilage!

Now porn has never even crossed my mind and I cant imagine anyone would want to watch me and the thought of someone I know stumbling across it is just too embarrasing so Id never consider it BUT things are more than a bit tight atm and thats A LOT of money..

Just have to wait for the lottery win i guess!

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alessthandomesticgoddess · 05/03/2012 00:28

I just read the thread and read that it may not be genuine.

WorraLiberty · 05/03/2012 00:28

Sorry but I smell bullshit

He's a chancer by the sound of him and he'll start off asking you to do a 'piece to cam' (probably maturbation with a vibrator) for free or a couple of quid so he can see how 'camera friendly' you are after you've signed away the footage rights (for that, read 'add your to his collection of naive women')

There are a multitude of willing wannabe porn models trying to get into the industry so I wouldn't touch this old chestnut with a barge pole.

Join a reputable agency if this is the work you want to do but don't fall for this sort of scam.

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WetTheMogwai · 05/03/2012 00:34

diotima its not a question of whether or not dd would starve, me and her live on around £80 a week including bills and things (apart from the rent) just because shes not starving doesnt mean that she doesnt deserve a better quality of life and yes when shes old enough to understand shed probably be horrified BUT if it had turned out to be as good as it seemed then i wouldnt regret it and Id hope that shed understand that.

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diotima · 05/03/2012 00:35

Anyfucker - Is she not so stupid because she's realised she probably not going to get the full amount or not so stupid because she's no longer thinking about having sex for money?

LaurieFairyCake · 05/03/2012 00:46

I do not understand this thread - it's mental. Women on mumsnet never say 'go for it/it's a lot of money' to shit like this.

I can't decide if this thread is a private in joke and I've been out all day or just the sock puppiest thread I've ever read.

What a load of cobblers.

diotima · 05/03/2012 00:46

What is a better future and what is a better quality of life? Kids don't need that much. Look at what kids value when considering what defines deprivation. The stuff which is most important to them has value. It's amazing what they can do without if they have what they need. Most deprived kids are deprived of the things that can't be bought.

starwisher · 05/03/2012 00:49

I must admit I was a little amused at the "you say prostition like its a bad thing" comment.

SlinkingOutsideInFrocks · 05/03/2012 00:50

Nobody with half an ounce of cop-on falls for the Nigerian scams any more, because they're just too ludicrous to be true.

Why on earth would anyone with the same cop-on fall for this?

These people fish and fish and fish until they hook in some poor, deluded soul who believes their story. If you target 100s of people, amongst that lot will be some un-streetwise type who'll fall for it.

OP - you keep switching back and forth between thinking it's all a big joke, and then actually pondering it.

You're really not that gullible, are you?

"...BUT if it had turned out to be as good as it seemed then i wouldnt regret it and Id hope that shed understand that."

It won't be. And anyway, the only way you'd find out one way or the other for sure would be by doing it, and then when (not if) it isn't, it'll be too late.

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WetTheMogwai · 05/03/2012 00:53

diotima i think having a roof over her head is pretty crucial or can she do without that as long as shes not starving?
would it be better if i stayed on housing benefit like i am now and risk being kicked out or earning the money myself with a job that suits me?
you dont know what id spend that money on or what my daughter goes without

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SlinkingOutsideInFrocks · 05/03/2012 00:59

I mean, seriously...

If a gentleman in the business of repairing boilers came on here and said that he was a bit bored of tinkering around with boilers all day - that he fancied a new career and that filming porn looked like alright craic, and did we think targeting single woman on dating sites might be the best way to engage, um, actresses...

...what sort of a reception, d'ya think he'd get?

I can't believe this thread is anything but a wind-up - it's too daft to be true. Nobody is this naive...

diotima · 05/03/2012 01:08

WTM - I know it can be tough and a battle sometimes, especially with older children. I don't know your circumstances so I'm not passing judgement. I hope things work out for you and your daughter. The most important thing is that you stick together. It's amazing what people who love each other can go through together. All that matters is that you have each other. That's why I get scared when I hear about people wanting to make themselves less than they are for the sake of someone who loves them. The person who loves them usually doesn't want that. They'll struggle for the person they are knowing that that person will struggle for them. Don't ever forget that the most important thing for your daughter is you.

starwisher · 05/03/2012 01:09

Nice posts from diotimo, and I agree

diotima · 05/03/2012 01:20

Thanks starwisher. And now I'm going to bed.

HorribleDay · 05/03/2012 06:50

I think - watch the Annabel Chong Story - documentary about the women who had the 'worlds biggest gangbang'. She called herself a feminist, liberated, enjoyed sex so why not sell her body to make easy money.

The most striking part of the documentary was upwards the end when she was cutting her arms and sobbing. Liberated feminist? Distraught and psychologically damaged.

fuzzywuzzy · 05/03/2012 08:24

Annabel Chong was deeply damaged before entering the porn industry, she'd been gang raped as a young student (if I remember rightly).

I've a very close friend who's first sexual encounter was being raped & she behaved in a not disimilar manner, I think it's a way of trying to make it not such a big deal, when in fact it's a horrendous thing to have happened to anyone.

desperatenotstupid · 05/03/2012 10:57

Been thinking about this thread alot, still not sure if it is genuine. My knee jerk reaction was 45K, where do i sign?? But its not that simple. I don't judge women who do porn or prostitutes, but it makes me sad that the majority of these women are not like Belle du Jour and made an informed CHOICE about their chosen career path. Rather they are niave and vulnerable and wanting a better life.

So, we have established that the guy is a twat and is probably just wanking over the messages. I have been on plenty of websites where men are quite open about wanting to do that (err, i MIGHT have indulged one or two of them, its a laugh ) but I have never ever been asked to star in a porn film (maybe im just too fat!) I think we are also pretty clear that the OP isnt going to do it. I was offered 5k once just to go and talk to someone, i actually think he was genuine (long story and boring so i wont go into it) Of course i declined, for several reasons, safety being paramount.

Back to reality though WTM, you say you want a better life for your child. I have done the whole single mother on benefits thing to, is pants, but its not a dead end. If you are serious about improving things, then your next step should be to contact your local college or learn direct and see about getting some qualifications so that you don't have to even consider selling yourself for money. Your daughter will not only benefit from the wages when you get a proper job, she will learn by example that you can be in control of your own destiny and do whatever it is you want to do. Maybe media studies? That is the better life, a happy mum = happy child.

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WetTheMogwai · 05/03/2012 14:59

agree with every single thing deperate :)

im part way through a degree but ive taken a year or 2 out to be a mum, the hard part is going back, its a fairly hardcore course as degrees go and the plan was to go on to the masters and the phd HOWEVER time and money are my big issues, im looking into doing it part time and doing a lot of it from home which would suit me a lot better but getting another student loan would mean my benefits will stop so right now im just trying to figure out how i could do it financialy. I dont have a problem with dd going to nursery, shell be one soon so thats plenty old enoug i think and im sure shed love it athough shed be there 5 days a week even if some of them are just half days.
its going to take a lot of thought and planning but we'll get there in the end! that 45k would have been reaaaally useful!!

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desperatenotstupid · 05/03/2012 15:06

hmmm, you actully could be me! If you want my honest advice, unless it is something very specific you are wanting to do, stop at the degree and get paid employment, i rather wish i did then i wouldnt be sat here with my PhD thinking, hmmm, if i was offered 45k to do a bit of DP(not that DP!) i might actually consider it !!!

NonnoMum · 05/03/2012 18:37

Wet - sorry to be brutal, but there is no way you would be suitable for a Phd if you even considered that this was anything other than a scam.
Phds are taken by very bright people.

Sorry - but good luck with getting back into your degree. Please don't be a victim.

Pornyissue · 05/03/2012 18:39

Wow that's just mean.

No need at all.

Bang out.

desperatenotstupid · 05/03/2012 18:43

NonnoMum - patronising, much??

PhDs ARE taken by very bright people, but even very bright people can have blonde moments and be niave, especially when they are vulnerable and are offered what seems like an easy way out.

desperatenotstupid · 05/03/2012 18:44

]hmmm Pornyissue!!

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 05/03/2012 18:51

It is a scam. My friend used to do films like today and they don't pay that much. Seriously, you'd be lucky to get a grand as a beginner, in fact several hundred would be more likely.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 05/03/2012 18:52

Actually no one is that stupid to believe that, so I'm a smelling a fake.

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