Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to give my toddler cake, chocolate sweets etc

110 replies

dappply · 04/03/2012 14:39

My husband has just said he thinks i give my toddler too much sugary stuff and that he's not sure he should get it at all. I want to double check myself to make sure he hasn't got a point.

DS is nearly three. His diet i think is really good, for instance yesterday he had

breakfast - branflakes with raisins and sunflower seeds, natrual yoghurt and chopped up pear and blueberries. Diluted orange juice and water.

mid morning - couple of oat cakes, grapes and strawberries.

lunch - bowl of homemade lentil and veg soup, grated carrot, courgette, cheese on a piece of wholemeal toast.

dinner - courgette, pepper, onion and mushroom omlette with cheese and bread and butter. raspberries and natural yoghurt.

and that's pretty normal really.

this week treat wise he had a chuppa chup lolly last sunday, a quarter of a twix on wednesday, a chocolate biscuit at playgroup of friday and a quarter of a cupcake and a chuppa chup today. DH thinks this is too much sweet stuff in a week.

My attitude was that i didn't want to refuse him sweet stuff as a rule, so as not to make it forbidden fruit, just to make sure when he does have it that it's not much, and that it's after meals. and to make sure he's not getting loads of hidden sugar in his diet, like in cereal and stuff, and to homemake the vast majority of things.

Am i being unreasonable? i can't find any guidelines anywhere

OP posts:
bigkidsdidit · 04/03/2012 22:26

Star if you really are after ideas- this week we've had sardines on wholewheat toast, omelette with grated courgette, grated carrot and peas with ham on the side, cauli and broccoli cheese, pasta with chicken, leek, red pepper and Philly, lentil and sweet potato casserole, yellow split pea soup... All recipes from on here or BBC good food

dappply · 04/03/2012 22:32

That all sounds lovely big kids! We love grating stuff too.

I guess a habit i've never really got out of fromfrom I was veggie, is I base my meals around vegetables rather than round meat or carbs. So I look in the fridge, see there's a cauliflower so decide to do something with that, like add bacon , potatoes and cheese sauce. Seems to make vegetable far nicer to eat if they are the heart of the meal .

OP posts:
starwisher · 04/03/2012 22:34

Big that sounds yummy! I have been stuck in a rut with being pregnant and having a newborn but it's time to change. Thanks for the ideas guys x

breatheslowly · 04/03/2012 22:43

I'd drop the juice. I have no idea whether it is really bad or not, but it isn't at all necessary (IMO). I think the whole drinking 8 glasses of water a day thing turned out to be a myth and you just need to drink when thirsty. If he will drink water then he will drink when thirsty, so the juice is unnecessary. Also food contains more water than you tend to realise. Does he drink milk at all?

Also don't wait until he has decay to stop the lollies. By the time he has decay in one tooth he will have damaged all of them to some extent with acid erosion, so it will be too late to change to other treats to be sure to avoid further decay.

chandellina · 04/03/2012 23:20

The diet is excellent and no one should be telling you otherwise. I rarely give juice since a dentist convinced me it's the work of the devil, but my son loves raisins which may be worse. Treats are a pleasure in life, your husband sounds slightly uptight!

breatheslowly · 04/03/2012 23:28

I'd also do as I say and not as I do. We had the GPs over today so DD had chocolate twice, ice cream once, didn't fancy much of her main course at lunch or dinner so mostly ate yogurt. The only rule we have with DD is no juice and that is because my DM is so anti-juice that I can't be arsed to have her attempt to bring it up "subtlely" over and over again.

Pandemoniaa · 05/03/2012 00:14

Sounds fine to me other than the lollies. I'd lose them, tbh.

Nice to see cutted up pear on the menu too!

WildImaginings · 05/03/2012 02:10

Sounds fine to me!

Morloth · 05/03/2012 06:59

Looks good but I would keep it to one chuppa chup a week just because of the sugar sitting against the teeth for an extended period.

That isn't that different to what my two eat, and I find it all pretty easy, they do have sweets and junk sometimes so it all balances out just fine.

dappply · 05/03/2012 07:58

thanks everyone. i think i might make a dentist appointment to get his teeth checked and get advise over the lollies and juice. you've all made me feel much better about myself. ta!

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread