oh, apparently now I am doing this SAHM malarkey all wrong.

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

I am being exceedingly azy according to a F, and if I had a "real" job I wouldn't expect them to do that for me, and would I?

According to her I should be doing all the chores around the house because that is job.

She wonders what's the point of the DC having a SAHM if they have to make their beds, empty the dishwasher, put their clean clothes away and a few other ad hoc jobs.

Apparently I should do all this, and try to do it in the day when they're at school because that should be my working hours.

For arses sake, and she's a total eejit isn't she?

AIBU expecting my DC to take responsibility for a few chores even though I am a SAHM?

YANBU.

Tell her to bog the bog off, and when she gets to the bog to fall into a pit of poisoned quicksand. With spiders in it.

I do nuffin porcam. NUFFIN.

My DC do everything when they get home from school.

Even the male child.

YANBU!!

My DP's mum did does everything for him. He was treated like a bloody king fgs.

He has learnt that I won't take over from his mum!

In that case I'm doing it all wrong too. This morning my 2 year old put washing in the machine and helped me unload the dishwasher.

Why does she even think its any of her business how you use your time or run your house.

YANBU
My Mum was an absolute martyr did everything except tidying. Which she nagged about.
Now she had very bad knees, but my Dad is still utterly unless around the house.
He can't cook at all.

You are a SAHM, not a SAHSkivvy. My older three are 5, 7 & 9, they tidy thier rooms, put thier clothes away and tidy around etc if I ask them to. When they start secondry school they will have to do thier own washing, hoover up, sort the dishwasher, make the odd meal, it won't be me being lazy, it will be me teaching them to do things for themselves, so that when they move out they know how to use the washing machine, iron a shirt, keep thier house tidy and feed themselves a healthy diet.

It's what any responsible parent should do, IMO it's these silly 'I'll do everything for my babies' parents who end up with selfish, entitled, lazy teengers/young adults who can't even wipe thier own arse, let alone live working independant lives.

She clearly isn't a MNer. Everyone knows you train your kids to be slaves domesticated so you can sit and MN all day!

What would happen if we all had to do housework? MN would cease to exist!

You are a sahm and have a dishwasher? You're living the life, aren't you?

Chaos..... even the male child?? But will he not turn gay? YANBU at all,in fact I would say you where VU if you wouldn't teach them how to look after themselves and their home. I was never asked to help out at home at all,I really never gave it a thought how my clothes turned up all ironed and lovely back in my wardrobe. I had a very rude awakening when I got my own place at 17. I felt utterly lost,had NO idea where to start looking after myself or my flat. That was a very humbling and at times embarrassing experience. I learned quick as I had to,but there are still things in daily live I find hard as I was never taught anything.In my eyes that's what you're there for as a parent,to teach them life skills,social skills and how to 'survive' on their own. Allow them to do things and learn,whilst making the odd 'controlled' mistake and face the consequences of those mistakes. Make them feel safe and loved but feel confident to stride out on their own as they have been given the know-how of life in general.
I did always see my Mum as a glorified skivvy and didn't have that much respect for her as a person.In fact I remember ringing her once and pointing out that she had missed a bit whilst cleaning my bathroom .

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YABU you terrible SLATTERN.

Pull yer finger out.

wow! I work a 10 hour day then then return to dinner, laundry and some tidying up

I LOVE MY LIFE

Bully for you, Porca.

OP I am ringing Esther Rantzen right now, I hope you are worried.

Have you strange-shaped vegetables?

Well, I hope that when you've done all your chores you then freshen yourself up for your DH coming home. You don't want that poor working man coming home to a woman who doesn't consider him.

isn't friday 'hair up' day, you should be at the salon my dear

making yourself look all purty for the weekend

hands up who didn't know porca's 'just asking' question was going to result in a dig at OP?

porca, medal is on it's way.

OP dont let idiots (online or in RL) interefere with what you do in YOUR own home with your own children. you know you aren't being lazy.

Hah JayEm.

That's exactly where I am!

I looked like a skunk. Now I am going to be gawg for my hubby. I may even get ribboning for him laters.

That's totally why I didn't rise to the bait, Booyhoo.

My DD is only 5 months old and I am already looking forwardto the day when she can help me do the washing up

oh Gin

do you know what you've done, now?

[wunk]

put aside gender/sahm factors

it it fair that OP family perform work/school, then have to do admin in evening?

would it not be better that all the work "admin" gets done in day, then come 7pm ALL CAN RELAX

but whatever!

i fucking hate having to do hsit in the evening, but as my 2 are so young i get that my SAHP cant do it

I'd be pretty fucked off if once they srated school he spent all day on DS/facebook [mumsnet] and left it for the rest of us to do

there's a difference between doing chores and being the hired help.