To think my mate is spoiling our night out?

[OffMilk]

My friends and I have a night out planned for next weekend. It's a big celebration and quite a few of us going. The idea was we'd start off with a few local drinks and then head into the city centre. Bit of a piss up yes but it's a rare thing and we've all been working really hard and are all looking forward to the opportunity to just let our hair down. I have booked my hair in for the day and bought a new dress and everything.
One of our friends doesn't drink for religious reasons however but still wants to be involved in the meet up so she's insisting that we all gather at a local Hookah bar and smoke this weird shit from a bong BEFORE our night out. This concerns me because a) I don't want to stink before we even go out. Especially when I've just had my hair done and b) I don't want to waste money doing this hippy shit when I could be spending it later on enjoying myself. Apart from this I don't want to do the smoking thing (Call me old fashioned but I value my lungs) and so would just be sat there watching the clock tick by.
By not doing this however I am effectively excluding her from the meet up.

I just want to go out for drinks like planned! AIBU??

I agree with Enormasnob

I'd rally all your friends round and tell her youll do that a different night with her

If the arrangements have been in place a few weeks then yes, a week is short notice IMO.

Especially if there are quite a few going.

I don't drink alcohol either- ao an entire night based on getting pissed out of your skull wouldn't appeal to me either. So why not just do something different first and THEN go out? If this is a workplace, it sounds terribly controlling if the only way to celebrate is drinking to excess.

TBB given the 'coffee and cake' anecdote you've posted too, it sounds like she's concerned with the alcohol dependence of all your social activities. Maybe you ought to use it as an opportunity to think about how you/your mates behave when drinking and how that makes other people feel, rather than immediately taking offence. Not everyones is comfortable with rowdy drunks.

An aibu split down the middle!

YANBU because you had already made arrangements and now this woman is trying to change them all purely for her own benefit. If you'd arranged a trip to a stately home with tea and buns and one of the party started going 'Waah, I have a phobia about buns, can't we go hang-gliding instead, you can't exclude me' it would still be reasonable to say, no, we have arranged this trip for this occasion, you get to choose what happens next time.

We did the hookahs on holiday in Egypt last month, in the hotel bar! They smelled gorgeous and it was fun. I don't even smoke!

Sheesha's actually do have significant health impact although urban legend has us believe they dont. Also, random testing showed the tubes have a delicious coating of fecal matter etc from group use and people not washing their hands after the loo. Nom.

Your friend is being a little bit unreasonable expecting it to be rearranged. However - you could be more accommodating, it wouldn't kill you. But I can also see why you're pissed off.

What's this sheesha all about then? Does it give you a natural high?