Cardinal Sins of AIBU

[QueenSconetta]

Can someone possibly explain these? I am a bit in fear of being roasted for inadvertently committing some heinous drip-feeding crime or similar.

Thanking you kindly, x.

My personal bug bear is titles like this: "AIBU?"

Give me some bloody clue as to whether it will interest me or is relevant! It drives me nuts! The whole forum is called AIBU so expand on your title please. I like it when people say "AIBU to bludgeon child free oaf who parked in P&T space" etc

1. Threads that end in "Discuss". Horribly presumptuous.

1. Threads about threads.

1. Threads with glaring spelling mistakes in the title (although they have the potential to spawn cliques, e.g. Wolefs, vagine)

1. Threads that are blindingly obviously written by journalists or The Wright Stuff "researchers".

Drip-feeding is adding more and more information when you feel that the thread is not going your way

AIBU to be annoyed that my MIL did X?
YABU
Well she also did Y
YA still BU
And she sometimes does Z, and she smells, and she once set the moses basket on fire
Why didn't you say that in the first place?

My pet hate is threads titled "AIBU that MIL did this?"

That's not a question. You can't be being unreasonable that someone else did something. Try reading it out loud.

AIBU to not like MIL doing this? Fine
AIBU to be annoyed at MIL doing this? Also fine
AIBU about this situation with MIL? Also fine

Ooh just thought of another one: very lengthy OPs that don't use paragraphs so it's just a huge block of text that makes you go cross eyed and read the same sentence three times whilst rapidly losing sympathy for the hand wringing OP who wanted sympathy but has lost it because they have annoyed you so much.

This is a paragraph. It was easily achieved by pressing the Enter button.

Paragraphs make an OP so much easier to read.

i hate it when serious subject appear in aibu, for example something about child protection. i don't think some posters realise that lots of really helpful and knowledgeable mnetters have hidden aibu as a topic and so miss out on probably really helpful information, rather than the usually moronic aibu posts

Insisting YANBU in the face of all evidence to the contrary

Posting the op then buggering off into the ether

Not answering questions making it obvious you're not actually bothering to read replies

Hth

People posting in AIBU when they could easily put it elsewhere but just want a reply , Its not wrong to want a reply to your post
I cant think of examples but i know people will post in AIBU when its not really an AIBU ,

AIBU to ask you if this is the right food for my chickens?

Yes. Go post in the chicken keepers' area. There are chicken experts there.

(safe example because none of the chicken-keepers would do this, they are all very tidy)

• Posters who drip-feed information. Please explain the problem clearly in the first place.

• Posters who don't answer questions. If we're taking the time to think about your problem, then (within limits) you need to keep track of the thread and answer reasonable posts.

• Posters who flounce because they don't like the responses they are getting. This is AIBU - if you want gentle support, find another forum.

• Bad spelling/grammar

• Posters who start to make personal/generic ("all MNers are beatches") comments because they are not receiving the level of support they expected

• Threads about threads; threads about other MNers; threads about MN being an unpleasant/unfriendly/unsupportive environment

• Threads that aren't a question, or cannot be clearly answered by YABU/YANBU

As you were

If "YABU" or "YANBU" doesn't make sense as an answer, then this is not the place for your questions.

As such, this thread should not be in AIBU.

Yes Trills thats the one

My spelling and grammar is awful i know it must really tick people off , sometimes it can't be helped though ,

AIBU where the answer is obvious. For example, AIBU to be annoyed and upset that neighbour mugged my DD for her mobile phone? What are we supposed to say . Yes YABU your DD shouldn't have a phone to steal??

AIBUs where anyone saying "YABU" would seem callous and insensitive

AIBU to be upset that is dead?

I always want to say yes, get a grip, you didn't know that person, but would get rounded on because they weren't actually asking if they were unreasonable to be upset, they were just telling us that they were upset.

I don't like the ones who post in AIBU for the traffic. What makes your problem so special?

You are not above using the forum in a tidy manner

(Showy? I just can't seem to keep it in my head who said this)

you know which AIBUs scare me witless , all the MIL AIBU I dont ever want to be a Mil or a grandparent as some seem just evil wicked people

OPs who post and never return.
OPs who flounce after refusing to submit to majority rule.ost often accompanied by nameslinging and mud calling.
Pointless AIBUs. 'AIBU to not want to eat breakfast'. Fuck off and get a life.
AIBUs that are obviously wind ups. Particularly the 0/10 for effort ones.
*AIBUs that get deleted whilst I'm still playing with the OP. These are the worst IMO, unfinished business irks me.

AIBUs that obviously wind-ups are only allowed if they are actually funny and enjoyable to participate in.

Posters who say "Be gentle it's my first post in AIBU"

Do your fecking research and post in a more relevant part of the forum then!

Reverse AIBUs. Just stop it.

Mrsjay, turning into an evil witch is not a condition that inevitably strikes as soon as you become a MIL, you know. Some people have MILs who are nice. My late MIL was lovely. (FIL, on the other hand, was a whole different kettle of piranhas.)

to turn this on its head ... bugs the shite out of me when for example:

AIBU to hate BIL for splashing out on a new car while we have a 20yr old banger

general concensus: YABU

OP replies "thank you, you are right I am BU".

3 pages later some dick replies "of course YABU you are a jealous bint with nothing else to be worrying about"

er ... please read ALL of the thread not just the OP before replying.

Evil MILs only occur if the MIL in question is already:
evil
selfish
entitled
overbearing
"bonkers as conkers"
stupid
or happens to have produced a son with poor taste in women, so the DIL thinks that the MIL is one of these things

If you are none of the above, what you need to work on is getting your son(s) to pick partners who you will get on with.