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A [not particularly] stealthy brag, but a bit of a rant

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MarinaIvy · 28/02/2012 09:26

This morning, during busy commuter time, I helped a young mother, her twin pushchair (loaded with what must be two very good eaters!), her suitcase, her elderly relative, and her adorable toddler down the stairs at my London train station.

All around us commuters were getting exasperated, because we weren't moving at breakneck speed. There was some shoving, some tsking, but most people just looked irritated and got past as fast as they could. Two gentlemen, however, stepped in to help carrying things, even got protective and chided some people trying to shove past. And a couple of people smiled, but didn't get involved.

So here's the rant: why can't people, upon seeing people who need help, Just Do It? Accept there's a blockage and, instead of fuming, help "unblock". If more people had helped from the outset we could have done it all much faster, which would have been better for everybody, not just the mother & crew, but everybody, by clearing the stairs faster.

I'm being philosophical about it - it hasn't ruined my day - on the contrary, for the "price" of a minute of effort, and some desperately needed exercise!, I earned a good feeling that will last me a while (I hope). And I'm vastly cheered by the thought that my reward (and the punishment the gits in the crowd get) is that they have to live with themselves and I don't.

But still. What do Mumsnetters think?

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MarinaIvy · 28/02/2012 14:25

No, it wasn't me, BarryStar: indeed, I adore London, and even the busy commuters!

What I don't get is this excuse for not offering to give somebody a seat - In general conversations with people (i.e, not on the spot), and too many say "I wouldn't want to offend". (And we've already ruled out mistaking fat people for pregnant people by this point, for the record.)

What do you, my fellow Mumsnetters, think about that reasoning?

To my mind, if somebody gets offended at somebody else being nice, they deserve to be offended. So I've never let that stop me from offering.

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vic1981 · 28/02/2012 14:28

Ski bum mum, same here! When i was pregnant i always got offered a seat in rush hour for my commute to and from work taking the Northern line. Very grateful, and forgive the delays....

formerdiva · 28/02/2012 14:37

Some friends and I took our 3 dd's to that there London at the weekend and took loads of tube journeys in our mad dash to see all the sights. Every single journey we took, someone offered the dd's a seat. Left me feeling quite warm and fuzzy...

LittlePickleHead · 28/02/2012 14:41

Yup, another one who, maybe aside from one or two occassions, got offered a seat on the tube and DLR when pregnant (even been offered one nce or twice recently, sure sign I need to start with the sit ups again!). Everyone was lovely, and I've never noticed any rudeness when travelling with a buggy either. There are a couple of mums commuting in with their toddlers on my train on a daily basis (obviously taking them to daycare), and they always seem to get offered seats so they can sit and read stories etc to make the journey more bearable.

Yes the tube can be busy, crowded and house some rude people, but comments about how rude 'Londoners' are dismay me. Perhaps you see what you are expecting to see? And I wouldn't hesitate to ask for help/a seat if I needed it, just in case nobody had noticed

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