Think there are a lot of judgemental people posting on MN

[Claire1lou]

I am fairly new to mumsnet and although i have seen some good advice given to people who have posted on here, i have to say i have been astounded by the judgemental and sometimes aggressive posts i've seen. Some people seem to 'give advice' very often on a number of subjects but they always seem to end up as sarcastic or nasty. This is obviously a personal opinion and i'm sure i will get flamed for it. On the whole there seems to be some great people here with just a few odd confrontational ones.

If you are new to MN the best advice I can give you is to go and talk to people and post and give advice, not to start threads moaning about how you don't like it.

If you join in a bit more you may find that you grow to like it.

If you don't like it there are other forums that may be more to your taste.

All areas of life have some nasty people, including the internet.

Oh, and YABU

Shhhhhh OP. Watch and learn

You are right in saying most are great, some are arsey just for the sake of it.

Stick around, take the rough with the smooth, we're mostly good eggs

While some people do get a bit overzealous/nitpicky when replying, I think the fact that you will get a variety of replies on mumsnet is a good thing. Sometimes people do need a kick up the backside, and come here for precisely that. The OP can take what they want from the replies given.

You wanna fight?

Seriously, what Trills said. It's an open forum and anyone can post anything, and they often do, although it can be deleted if someone complains. You get all sorts here. Enjoy the good bits.

YABU. I hate when more attention is given to the more nasty posters and helpful posts go by with no acknowledgment. To do that before it has even happened is odd. Good luck OP...

Claire1lou - I agree with you wholeheartedly - after a few months I've decided that empathy can be in short supply with some people - try to picture these people like those two women Les Dawson used to do over the garden fence, hitching up their bosoms with constant disapproval of other people their faces looking like they are chewing wasps - then thank heaven your not like them. :)

I can't speak for other boards, but the very nature of posting in AIBU is that you are asking for / inviting judgement to either answer a question you have or to validate your own opinion.

YANBU but will draw fire.

I think MN provides a vent for angry bad tempered people sometimes (including me) and thus it's providing a service to society removing it from RL.

It also gives loads of great advice. Out of all the forums I use it does have the most bad tempered posting.

Welcome to MN, time to toughen up .

I do like MN, i think there are some great people with good advice. I just think there are some that seem to go a bit too far.

But you do realise that you are judging yourself?

This thread is confrontational in itself. And posting it in a section of MN which asks every reader to Judge if you are being unreasonable is making me think you like the judginess of it all.

YABU

Your title could be shortened to 'there are a lot of judgemental people'! Sorry OP, it's not just on Mumsnet.... RL is full of it too!

There are some friendly, tactful people out there though so it isn't all bad

On the whole there seems to be some great people here with just a few odd confrontational ones.

Just like absolutely any other forum on the net then

Ahh, you've not seen the threads where you get a bit of "Competitive Non-Judgementalism" going on. I reckon you'd like those.

Yes, some posters can be arsey, but the majority are lovely, if a bit forthright. Every forum has a 'tone' and if you find the MN tone doesn't fit right with you then there are other ones.

YES WE HAVE NO BANANAS

Or coconuts, Hully.

It's a sad and sorry state of affairs.

I've got some umberellas tho

Depends where you post - if you use AIBU you can expect a bit of fisty-cuffs - so I would never post about anything sensitive or serious here...

I find people are generally kinder on the relationship threads, for example.

But I like that fact that you get the broad spectrum of opinions on here - if I wanted everyone to agree with me I would just ask my RL friends

hang around in classics, then site stuff.

You get to learn stuff and get a feel for the place.

and eh, thanks for that synopsis OP, like eh, tell us summat we don't know...

Hully has gone all Rihanna on us.
ACE.

OP, it's not the done thing to criticise a forum you've only just joined. You'll get a reputation for being a whinging dullard.

Now come over to Chat and have a larf.

Thats why I like Mumsnet its more honest. There's none of this pussyfooting around what people really think. Those posts that go a bit too far are quite few and far between IME.

Id rather someone tell me Im a tit and to get over myself so I can rather than people agreeing with me to my face and going behind my back.