Think there are a lot of judgemental people posting on MN

[Claire1lou]

I am fairly new to mumsnet and although i have seen some good advice given to people who have posted on here, i have to say i have been astounded by the judgemental and sometimes aggressive posts i've seen. Some people seem to 'give advice' very often on a number of subjects but they always seem to end up as sarcastic or nasty. This is obviously a personal opinion and i'm sure i will get flamed for it. On the whole there seems to be some great people here with just a few odd confrontational ones.

I know what you mean about nasty behaviour on this board in particular and I just see it as a place where some people get to be nasty in cyberspace where there might be a little more cautious in real life. Some will argue that they would be just as rude in real life so fair enough but I would usually do my best to avoid such people generally.

Mostly people are kind and sometimes have differing opinions but manage to impart these in a fair manner. However be warned that AIBU section does seem to attract the most nastiness so if you want a serious answer to a question try posting on one of the other more specific boards.

Most people here are not 'nasty' Red....they are just forthright. I love MN for the hard witty edge it has. It really is entertaining and very supportive too. But AIBU is about a little bit of bun fighting. Go to other areas like chat if you want a gentle conversation.

Elder I didn't say most people were nasty I said that there was some nasty behaviour. If being forthright means being rude and aggressive then I think there is something wrong in the world.

thanks fly :)

Erm, well there's those who come on just to snark (cos its sport), seriously offensive ones, bossy and officious, unable to have an adult conversation.

These are far outweighed by the brilliant, helpful, funny, witty, sympathetic ones. Stick with. Stay away from AIBU.

what's this word 'snark' i've seen it bandied around this site quite a lot recently.

is it new? and is it the same as 'snipe'

aha, I've just got it.

a combination of 'snipe' and 'sarky'

am I right?

Yes, similiar. You know when you're in a PMT mood and everything pisses you off and you pick holes in the tiniest thing? That's being snarky. Alot of posters have month-long PMT it seems and I could name a few

To me it's more sarky and narky, I think.

Like bad tempered and sarcastic.
I may be interpreting it wrong but it puts a few people in a nutshell.

(me sometimes)

ooh yeah and me sometimes. A little bit is Ok, though, innit?!

ah, ok all in the same ball park then. Ta

might even start using it meself

Oh Beer, mate, that's rough :(

God yeah. You have to snark sometimes. I think you'd combust if you didn't.

I don't know there's some names that crop up again and again and their default setting is "pissy".

Ignoration - another good word Beer

Is it just me or are you not being judgemental thinking a alot of people being judgemental

OP I'm relatively new to MN too. I think you're right, there is a 'tell it like it is' attitude on here. Personally I prefer that to the sycophantic and passive aggressive style of posts typically found on, say, Facebook.

OP - MN makes me laugh so hard sometimes I do a little wee - but that could be my age. Enjoy the good bits and ignore the bits you don't like.

And I enjoy a good judge some days.

In fact, sod the requests for a cake emoticon - couldn't we have a wig?

^ This^

I have been on and off MN since 2007, albeit under a different name. I am having a bit of an "On" moment currently. I had my first internet rip off experience on MN (of which I am so proud) for £100 squids for a pack of reusable minky nappies. I had so much support when the twunt dared showed her face on the for sale boards again, as she started to rip another MNer off for the same nappies. the MN lot saw her off good and proper.

I have bought about 10 a few buggies from MNers

I went through my second round of DE IVF on MN conception threads with huge support

I have wee'd a bit at inappropriate and funny posts

I have drunk tea and shared cyber hugs with people in far worse off situations than I could ever contemplate

And I have got ever so flouncy at some of the very judgey pants people.

But I love the diversity on MN. I love the wit & wisdom and even the intolerance makes me smug.

welcome, BTW

Flibberty, great post. Though I can't pretend to know what a 'minky' nappy is.

Claire1lou, starting a fred in AIBU is akin to hoisting your judgey pants. When you ABU, like now, you should just suck it up.

I think you reap what you sew to a certain extent. The so called MN Royalty are just people who are on the forum a lot and whilst I absolutely hate troll alerts, it's fair to say that some people can spot them a mile off. Maybe a bit judgemental sometimes but wait until you need the help and support from amazing people who seem to actually give a shit. tThey are well worth ignoring the odd sarky comment for. Also, wait until you have PMT or a shit day, you may sometimes react in a crappy way as well, it's human nature.