to stop my children speaking with the local accent?

[workshy]

95% of the time I accept that my dcs speak with the local accent -I'm not a fan but they fit in with their peer group, I chose to live here so it's fine

but when they pronounce their own names differently to me it drives me insane

they both have an 'a' in the middle of thier names which when I was naming them I pronounced with a short 'A', like the name of the letter
locally it's pronounced 'aaaaaaaaaa' -children in their classes are telling them they are saying their names wrong!

AIBU to insist they say their names the way I intended or do I just go with the flow?

OP let them pronounce their names how they want. Yes you gave them those names but they are you dc's names not yours and they have to live with them.

'Yanbu at all - correct them and then at least they'll know there is a 'proper' way and a regional way to speak'

Really? What our 'proper' accent? RP? Why? Does the OP speak RP?

I know this is a light-hearted thread in lots of ways but I am quite shocked by this. 'Katie' is correct pronounced 'kay-tee', 'KT' and countless other ways, depending on accent.

PMSL at 'I don't really have an accent' type comments, too. You only don't have an accent if you don't speak!

And accents vary in the same place - so it is perfectly possible to be 'posh' in a Mancunian, Glaswegian, Scouse, etc accent.

I realise I am banging on here but its quite disturbing that in the UK, having a 'southern' (WTF is deemed as 'southern', huge area to cover?) accent deems you to be higher class (because that's what the hideous word 'posh' really means).

Right, right before I write a thesis, I will leave it there! Imagine how much worse this post could have been if I were drunk, though...

PS YABU (I think you got that, though!)

Also PMSL at

we used to live in the suburbs thankfully ds didn't pick up on the droney moany accent

now in a mainly very posh part of london he speaks with a sarf london accent :) i have no idea why maybe he is rebelling in his own way

I'm with you on the 'speaking proper' and 'not having an accent' comments wahwahs that didn't make sense to me either

What on earth is the difference between Kaytee and KT? I can't fathom it!

Neither can I missmiss

if she comes to scotland it will be kay-tay

sorry, but nothing you can do... be thankful you're not from another language and suffering having your children's names murdered by mono-lingual brits.

I am from Lqncashire where an admittedly posh name like Cassandra is prinounced:
cass-an-dra

But now live in a place where it would be pronounced:
Cass-arrrrrrn-dra

So I had to take it off my baby name shortlist for all the reasons the OP mentions.

OP: you can try to "correct" their pronunciation of their names but it will be a very hard one to enforce.

I've lived in the same area all my life and I'm trying to stop my DC from saying things like 'cannae' (can't) and 'nut' (no)

It might be snobbish but I don't talk broad scots, I was brought up not to and I would prefer it if my dc didn't either

I get more upset when DD (almost 2) says ca' (cat) or bu'er (butter), like DH than when she says something like shit or ''fuck sake'', like I do very occasionally (by accident, I might add). I do get shocked when she swears but it does sometimes make me laugh.

I could cope with the odd dropped T or H as long as she could easily speak like both of us and be 'bilingual'. Not sure if I could ever cope with the wide vowels as in wawta (water), though. Luckily, not like DH.

As for fitting in with peers, I feel that they are not fixed and kids find new friends all the time. And, here, in London there is more than one type of peer to fit in with.

I'm originally from Belgium but have been living in the UK for 10+ years. My LO is 3 and is starting to speak in a Lancashire accent e.g. "mummeeh" (at home he says "mama"). He also started staying "spuuun" instead of "spoon". AIBU that I want him to speak "proper" as in with a normal accent?

It's their name, let them pronounce it how they want.

My Grandad insisted on ma thh ooy (matthew) and an thh un eee (antony). And would "correct" me for saying them as math-ue and ant-oh-nee

My late mother in law was adamant that neither of her son's would have the Portsmouth accent. Sent them to private school as one of her efforts to avoid it. She was successful, unsurprisingly.

to use the example given 'cassaaaaaandra' that would drive me mad.
Cassandra.

plenty of people with those long ahs still have terrible accents. so i wouldn't focus on that.

i don't know how but my children have my own accent not the local accent. but when i say local, lots of local people speak like i do too. it's about half and half. i'm glad they speak like i do i guess. if i lived in the uk i wouldn't try to make them sound like southerners if we lived up north though.

I'm Irish but when n dd was about two she would speak in a very posh English accent and say things like oh why yes certainly instead of just yes. they thought she was hilarious at preschool. she also used to call me mother and being a very young looking 24 year old at the time that would turn heads lol.

DS puts on a heavy local accent when he wants to wind me up. I explain this is why he can't spell.

My Nanna always tries to correct my accent. It's a West Yorkshire one. Hers is a Cork accent so I don't think she has room to talk

No offence to any other Corkies, but you gets me

my daughter used to have that uk RP accent but even within RP there are mistakes that the English don't hear. To them it sounds right but it's like the smell in your own house! you don't smell it. My poor daughter was being corrected by non-english relatives on my side for saying lore and order instead of law and order. there were other mistakes too. She got it on all sides.

There is a lot of variance within the cork accent but they don't tend to drop letters. Every letter in the word is pronounced, it's the intonation of the whole sentence which is quite extremely lyrical. It's the polar opposite of yorkshire which is quite staccato. I think.

I understand totally and it shaped the names we didn't give dc
Y turns to eh and whole syllables get missed

we had a phase of the local children's glottal stop. (I say children as I am not sure the adults do it) I used to go selectively deaf. I only understand the words when they are spoken properly and when the appropriate please or thankyou has been added.

My two boys have the oddest accents; we're from Warwickshire and DS1 (9) drops his th into f, so free rather than three, fanks rather than thanks. It drives me mad. But then they've picked up DH's posh accent and pronounce castle car-stle, bath is bar-th, grass is grar-se and, most hilarious given they're ruffians, minecraft is minecrar-ft.