to stop my children speaking with the local accent?

[workshy]

95% of the time I accept that my dcs speak with the local accent -I'm not a fan but they fit in with their peer group, I chose to live here so it's fine

but when they pronounce their own names differently to me it drives me insane

they both have an 'a' in the middle of thier names which when I was naming them I pronounced with a short 'A', like the name of the letter
locally it's pronounced 'aaaaaaaaaa' -children in their classes are telling them they are saying their names wrong!

AIBU to insist they say their names the way I intended or do I just go with the flow?

Please don't do this. My parents had a thing for banning the local accent, correcting grammar, speech "faults" and also I was not allowed to let anyone shorten my name (apparently it would be my fault if they did...)

It has left me very very shy, and even now half the time I have a dreadful fear of what will come out of my mouth. I've done a lot to overcome it, so it might not be apparent to most people who meet me, but the feelings are there and I hate them. And it does hold me back on occasion still.

I know certain pronunciations make my teeth itch, as they do yours, but I would far rather my children spoke with confidence in whatever accent they choose. (And as they get older and have more varied experiences they are quite likely to come back to their home accent anyway so it's not a big deal)

I grew up with my glaswegian father in Manchester. My mother came from the Highlands but was living in Cumbria. My accent is just a soft Scottish accent now, but it can become very glaswegian when I say something to my dcs that my dad often said to me.

My dp was brought up in North London and has a very clipped middle class voice. I am very vigilant in monitoring their accents - there is no way that I am having children with North London accents when they are half Scottish! Their names are pronounced differently by the different sides of the family - they say how it however the people they are with are saying it.

You can try, but I bet you won't be able to.

The children I used to nanny for speak in Northern accents. Their dad has lived in London in all his life and their mum moved down from Manchester about 10 years ago. Her accent isn't very strong though. The kids have lived in London all their lives but their accents are Northern.

You are judging people based on how they speak. Their accent is not good enough for your precious children. I repeat. Snob.

at what point did I say the accent was not good enough?

as I said the majority of the time they use the local accents -it's just their names that I object to

I don't see the difference with Katie! Round here it would be keh-teh, I gues.

Anyway, you can't stop them picking up their friends' accents I don't think.

I don't think it makes you a snob at all, but I don't see how you can stop it.

We have lived in Gloucestershire for 6 years and dd has a real worzel's accent (which bizarrely she didn't have at all when we lived in Devon ). I am accentless and say 'please talk properly' because she sounds like a complete carrot cruncher, for instance instead of saying France like wot I do properly she says Fraaaaaaaaaance to rhyme with romance. She completely ignores me when I talk about her gloucester accent (as she should, to be fair).

I just have to grit my teeth.

I sympathise as where I live people pronounce my name 'wrong'. It's one of the simplest names in the world but I'm constantly having to spell it because of how I pronounce it (correctly obviously, it's my name ).

The only thing you can do is move to an area/country where they pronounce it properly.

Im scottish so I have long As so i would say katie as kaaaaaatie I just think you have to accept it and grit your teeth ,

She is 16 btw.

Please don't think i am calling a 2 year old a worzel.

And I am not horrible about it, just gently teasing, and she has her revenge, you should hear what my dd says about my slingbacks.

Can't always help myself when dd2 says things like 'joost' and 'loock' for just and luck though....

I'd say 'KAYtee'. Actually here is would be 'KA'eh'.

My DDs name starts with Th, which is pronounced as F locally.
DD is known for having words with classmates (and the occasional teacher) who fail to use Th instead of F. They don't tend to repeat the mistake.

TheOriginalSteamingNit

ooo ooo ooo -that's more like how it is said

told you I was rubbish at phonics!

the eh sound at the end is bang on but common end sound to words round here so I ignore it -it's the long draw out 'ay' that gets me lol

The minute you started a thread complaining that they speak like their friends. As long as they are happy, polite, confidently spoken children who cares what accent they have???

Do you live in Hull OP?

My dad grew up in north wales but my gran was from Liverpool, although not from the age of 25. He's 65 now and still says 'cuke' and 'buke' instead of cook and book. All his brothers and sisters do too.

95% of the time I accept that my dcs speak with the local accent -I'm not a fan but they fit in with their peer group, I chose to live here so it's fine

this is a complaint???

I obviously have a very thick skin?

Oh dear Good luck with that! You may have named 'em but they have to live with the names so it's up to them isn't it really.

Mine have the oddest hybrid accents. DH is from East Ham. I use RP and am quite 'well-spoken'. We live in Somerset. My children use all three from time to time - sometimes even in the same sentence

That does sound like it could be HUll - and I have to say I don't find Hull vowel sounds the prettiest ever.

(er ner there's sner on Herlderness Rerd!)

Both my children get their names pronounced in ways I'm not keen on, it does grate at first but probably small potatoes really!

but kaytey is so much nicer than KT

and how do you say France so that it doesn't rhyme with romance?

no not Hull but right county