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to think this is the most annoyingly pretentious article I have read in a long time?

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sphil · 18/02/2012 21:33

www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/17/rachel-cusk-divorce-the-aftermath

I felt as if I was drowning in a sea of verbiage by the time I'd finished it.

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 20/02/2012 21:54

Margo - no, I really didn't think you were overcomplicating matters. I thought you were being extremely well-balanced and clever! :)

margoandjerry · 20/02/2012 21:55

Not more patient. Just perhaps more neurotic on this issue. But not as neurotic as RC Grin.

And yes, in the end, you couldn't hack it in your marriage. There's no shifting the blame for all of that onto daddy.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 20/02/2012 22:06

Sorry - the 'more patient' bit was to Math.

Fecklessdizzy · 20/02/2012 23:53

Hurrah! Grin I gave up half way through as it was a load of psycho-wibble and a waste of one's lunch hour ... I bet her poor old ex was massively relieved to see the back of her, she was pissing me off considerably after a few minutes!

mathanxiety · 21/02/2012 01:43

I don't think she blamed her parents (though I know she has a poor relationship with them) though obviously a life is lived in the context of parents and family and any mention of them that is not glowing can be interpreted as fault-finding. I think she was more kicking herself than blaming anyone.

mathanxiety · 21/02/2012 01:46

And kicking herself for accepting her father's model of living, rejecting her mother's, without taking into account the possibility of the visceral 'the children belong to me' emotion that came out of nowhere and mocked everything she had held until then.

DeSelby · 21/02/2012 14:10

Saw this and thought of this thread!

sarahditum.com/2012/02/20/after-the-aftermath/

Can't do links, sorry.

Jux · 21/02/2012 21:09

Actually I thought it was quite a good piece of writing, clear and easy to read. I didn't notice any unusual words.

I'm not sure I would like to know her though.

Dozer · 02/03/2012 20:24

On the train home tonight saw a paper (Standard?) someone else was reading with a picture and quote of Rachel Cusk talking about MNetters hating her!

Whatmeworry · 02/03/2012 21:01

On the train home tonight saw a paper (Standard?) someone else was reading with a picture and quote of Rachel Cusk talking about MNetters hating her!

Rite of passage these days.....

Cherriesarelovely · 02/03/2012 23:41

Oh god wasn't it absolutely dreadful?! So self indulgent and actually so disrespectful of her family in so many ways. Her poor ex H and children, having their lives put on display like that without having any choice in the matter.

Whatmeworry · 03/03/2012 08:18

Oh god wasn't it absolutely dreadful?! So self indulgent and actually so disrespectful of her family in so many ways. Her poor ex H and children, having their lives put on display like that without having any choice in the matter.

I wonder if they could hit her with libel law? Seems to me that this would be a good application of law guaranteeing privacy.

hackmum · 03/03/2012 14:43

Here's some info about the lawyer/photographer husband:

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adrian_Clarke_(photographer)

I'm pretty much alone in this but I enjoyed the excerpt. I've changed my mind about Cusk. I've never read her novels but the articles I read by her seemed very self-absorbed. Then I read A Life's Work, and was amazed. It was the most honest and, to me, truthful description of motherhood I'd ever read and what is more, it was laugh-aloud funny in places. That was the last thing I expected.

So I think I will read this new book. I don't think she is like Julie Myerson and not at all like Liz Jones. She's not writing about her children, she's writing about herself and how she feels. A lot of people seem to assume that because she describes feeling in a particular way that she is defending herself but it seems to me that she is acknowledging that her feelings are contradictory and inconsistent. Isn't that true of all of us? Don't we all have thoughts and feelings that go against the way we think of ourselves? It's just that most of us hide them rather than make them public. She's obviously interested in her own reactions (which I realise is a cardinal sin for a lot of people) but I don't think she's vain or self-aggrandising in the way that, say, Liz Jones is.

I also don't have a problem with difficult words. If you don't know a word, look it up. We are grown-ups, after all.

vezzie · 05/03/2012 11:23

Posted this on the wrong thread, meant to put it here.

Cusk on Woman's Hour - she's the first feature, around 1.45:

www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b01ckmgb/Womans_Hour_Rachel_Cusk_and_Lynn_McCafferty/

Would be interested to know what you lot thought?

sphil · 11/03/2012 09:10

Oh I missed that Vezzie - this thread has dropped off 'threads I'm on'. Did you listen?

Am resurrecting thread to ask if anyone read the Zoe Brennan article in yesterday's Telegraph? And the RC lifestyle interview in The Guardian?
Will try to link but I never have much luck with papers...

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sphil · 11/03/2012 09:17

Can't find it online but its in the News Review and Comment section with the headline 'When silence speaks louder than slurs'.

The lifestyle piece is in the Sat Weekend mag.

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exoticfruits · 11/03/2012 09:30

I scan read it-enough to know that I feel very sorry for the DCs. She is very self absorbed and self centred. The husband's side would be interesting.

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