to think this is the most annoyingly pretentious article I have read in a long time?

[sphil]

www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/17/rachel-cusk-divorce-the-aftermath

I felt as if I was drowning in a sea of verbiage by the time I'd finished it.

Me too

I had a little bet with myself that this would be Rachel Cusk!

I'm not sure that her navel gazing needs to be in a national newspaper. I didn't find it enlightening interesting or well written.

I wanted to know why her husband felt she had treated him 'monstrously' but have a sneaking suspicion she may have clubbed him over the head repeatedly with a dictionary

YANBU.

I saw the thread title and guessed the article you were referring to immediately!

Didn't finish it. Going to watch The Walking Dead instead.

I assume he left as she never let him get a word in edgeways and intellectualised everything so that there was no real feeling in their marriage at all.

Just a hunch.

As soon as I saw the title, I too had a bet that it was Rachel Cusk - what exactly was the point of the article other than as a self-indulged display of her sprawling use of a language and a bit of feminist cod psychology?

That grin was for OAM - looks a bit callous after Miggsie's post! Which I think is probably true.

I agree it was a really densely written essay that gave the reader nothing. So she has lived like a man and has to support her ex "wife". So what.

I was so hoping someone here would start a thread on this! Not that I've anything to add mind.
The maps in the mag are fab though!

I gave up halfway through that drivel. It is as though someone lent her a dictionary, and she was eager to put long words into her garbage, but wasnt sure where to fit them in.

Cod psychology, cod feminism (she's never understood it as far as I can tell), cod self-reflection - article as interesting and worth reading as staring at a cod.

Ha! I also guessed which article you were referring to from the title. Gosh, she is sooo dull and sooo self-obsessed - such a perfect candidate for Pseud's Corner. I (mistakenly) tried to read her book on motherhood once and that was equally miserable/dull/self-obsessed/over-written.

I feel sorry for her poor children. Imagine going back to school after half term with that having been written by your mum about your family life, in a national newspaper. The dad deserves full custody frankly!

Ugh yes, I kept at it in the hope that it would start to be interesting and insightful but gave up in despair. Utter shit.

didn't understand a bleddy word!

Weird.

Although am interested in the legal stuff, think she was the breadwinner and he stayed at home with the DC and that the lawyer advised her this meant he'd be likely to get custody / maintenance, but later in the article it seems to say she has custody and doesn't pay maintenance?

"The first time I saw my husband after our separation I realised, to my surprise, he hated me."

She might have been surprised; I'm not

I think her basic point is that she resents having to pay maintenance to him because he is a man, and not deserving as he is only a low-status house husband, whereas that she should get (and indeed has) custody because she is a woman and gave birth to the children, even though he is the one who gave up his job to look after the children. Nice.

Who the hell is she and why has she made my eyes bleed? That was bloody horrible to read.

That's a bit harsh daisy, that bit was v sad.

She reckons she owns her children, yet doesn't acknowledge her responsibility to the way they feel. Monstrous. At least her husband, as an adult, could get away.

sphil