To think I'm NOT a single mum...

[LiamsMummyJaz]

Me and my friend were discussing yday getting married before kids.. I personally as long as the parents are in a stable loving relationship doesn't think it matters as long as there are plans for marriage in the future (I wanted to get married while I was pregnant but DP wants a 'do' and wants DS to be involved) But my friend said... 'well your a single mum.. Your not married..'
I argued the toss that I wasn't, but am I wrong? Am I classed as a 'single mum' to people because I'm not married?

Don't not doesn't sorry!

You're not a single mum.

Does your partner live with you?

Single mum implies raising the kids on your own, she's nuts.

If you are living with someone and have children with them then no, of course you aren't a single parent. Marital status has nothing to do with it. To be honest, it matters nothing whether you plan to marry or not either.

Definitely not a single mum. You are with your DP and have/having a child together. IMO you are a single mum if you are not in a relationship with the father of your children.

you're not.
you have a stable relationship with a partner who shares the household and childcare.

I don't think it matters even if there aren't plans for marriage in the future. To me, a single parent is a parent without a partner, of whatever kind.

Your not a single mum but I notice that on all legal paper work your classed as single - Im down as single on my pregnancy notes even tho OH is very much on the scene

I'm single. But that doesn't stop me being in a partnership and considering us to be a couple. Marital status is immaterial.

single woman, not single mum.

thank you! I have every intention of getting married but my DP wants the big white wedding with all the trimmings and a honey moon. While I just want to go to the register office on saturday and just do it with my parents as witnesses. I was thinking of applying for 'Don't tell the bride' haha.

But yes thank you for proving me indeed correct as I do live with DP and love him dearly.

You're can't be single if you have a partner, surely? And you can't be a single mum if you're not, well, single?

Whether marriage before children is a good idea is a separate question of course (I guess it's a valid decision either way, as long as you both know your legal rights etc).

No. You are not a single mum

You aren't single.

You just aren't married.

And no I don't think wedding bells in the future matter. It's just I would personally like to get married! Sorry that did come across wrong!

If you and your partner raise the children together and from the same home... You are not a single mum.

What Hecate said

You're not a single Mum or a single Woman...you're an unmarried Mum.

No you're not a single parent.

You might want to make sure that you are legally & financially protected in the event of a split or your dp's death, if you're not already, especially if you're a sahm. I know it sounds gloomy, but shit does happen.

Although I'm fiercely unmarried, we've been together 10 years, live together and raise our DCs together, AND I don't consider myself single. Your friend is wrong.

You are not a single parent no. Your children have two parents in the home with them. You are a co-habiting COUPLE....not one parent.

Well we have a Joni bank account so we're halfway there

Bloody predictive!! Joint not Joni !!

Your friend is trivialising what you have and assumes marriage is the "correct" way. Which is nice.
I once had a friend like this. She called my DS a "bastard" as my partner and I haven't married. Charming eh?
As I said, I used to have a friend like that

I'd say unmarried as you are not single as you are in a relationship.

HelloShitty you have the Best. Name. Ever.

No you are not a single mum and your friend is making some kind of obscure Point-with-a-capital-P imo. Ignore.