Am I being mean to the cat...

[QuietTiger]

(This is a little tounge in cheek)

I work from home a lot and my office has a window onto the garden. My Dcat has a perfectly functional catflap that comes from the garden, into the kitchen. She is currently sitting on the windowsill of the office, yelling to come in. I am messing about on MN working hard and if she comes in through the window she will trample the computer and demand cuddles.

AIBU to ignore her and make her use the catflap? I say no, DH who is far too soft for his own good says yes...

Cat is BU. But that's what cats do

You could go to the door and shout the cat in and then give him or her snuggles in the office so she doesnt trample on your computer :)

My cat does this and I had a very similar AIBU not too long ago. They said to leave her :D

I did

She is fine lol

YANBU. If she doesn't get the exercise she'll turn into a fat cat!!! Sorry cheesy I know!!

Ignore and carry on fiddling about on here working

Yes, you are being very unreasonable (also tongue in cheek). Any minute now, I will have to stop mumsnetting, and let our cat out of the front door. He too has a perfectly good catflap, but doesn't see why he should use it if one of us is about to usher him in or out of the front door. I will also have to open the stairgate for him, so he can go upstairs (we have a stairgate so the dogs can't go upstairs and eat his food).

Not for nothing is it said that dogs have masters, whilst cats have staff!

Is your cat related to my cat? Small, tabby and very entitled?

I wouldn't ignore her, I'd do a little dance and stick my tongue out at her. But beware the revenge attack.

My cat does the exact same thing. I try to be strong and insist he use the flap, but I fold every time

YANBU, stay strong!

Mog does this in Mog the Forgetful Cat! She forgot she had a cat flap, you see, so always sat on the kitchen ledge miaowing to be let in. She came in and sent all Mrs Thomas's peas flying (Mrs Thomas didn't have a computer). So your cat is obviously just forgetful, like Mog:-)

Is it an outward opening window?

(evil)

She must be, random. Except she is tabby and white and not just "very" entitled, but "HIDEOUSLY" entitled. she's convinced that if she sits still long enough, the world will revolve around her.

And I won't tell you about the 3 memory foam pet beds that she MADE DH go out and buy her so she could sleep in the sun on the windowsill and "be comfortable"!

you can never make a cat use a catflap....you can never make a cat do anything !

In my experience cats never have liked catflaps

They want te door /window to be opened for them,,,,and just them , when they want to come back in

My two do use the cat flap all day long but also yell to go out of the french windows into the 'other' garden.

No, we only have one back garden but it's as if they've never seen it before! Lots of hanging around the doorway, sniffing, very scaredy, all the time letting freezing air in , finally going out very timidly. This is followed 30 seconds later by the side door cat flap going as they race in, followed by yelling at the french windows again, do you get the picture!

YANBU :)

YANBU..........your cat knows he is more superior than you so dont worry, he will get his revenge in some form by either taking a piss on your bed or bringing in a live mouse through the cat flap and letting it loose in the house!

He'll come through the cat flap when he really wants to come in, he is just testing you :)

YABU - it's a cat. They rule the world.

Beware the revenge of a cat that is ignored. Ours waits on the landing untill you come upstairs and wallops you round the back of the head .

When he shouts at me to be let in I draw the blinds to wind him up! Only for a second though, I'm not brave enough to really piss him off, I might not survive his wrath

I have 4 cats yet not one of them uses the sodding catflap!!!!!!! Instead the JR dog uses it which really grates me

I stupidly read this out aloud, and now im my cats are dying to know where to get these memory foam cat beds from??

Cats do rule the world, mine never used the cat flap so i got rid of it and got a new door, not they sit looking out crying to go out, i open the door and they just sit there looking out, so i close it, then they cry again, as soon as theyre out they cry to come in 5 minutes later, wish id of bloody kept the cat flap, never had all this then, i spent half my life standing by the patio doors opening and closing it!

Your cat needs to get you in training OP - you are very unsatisfactory as staff.

We have no catflap as we are in rented abroad, and my role is to let the cat out when he needs to pee at night, and then MN or sit at the computer until he wishes to come back in. He alerts me to this by jumping on the study windowsill, and I open the door for him to come in. This process has been known to go on until the wee small hours, so he depoarts at about 2230 and some nights doesn't come in til 0200. Luckily, as it's cold at present, it seems to be 30 mins tops, so I get to bed at a reasonable time.

Your cat is treating you like a doormat. Unless stand up to it the level of abuse will increase unless you are complete powerless and unable to think for yourself. Today its the door. Next you will be making excuses for it scratching you and next you will be making threads about how all you got for your birthday was a dead mouse. You will feel neglected and taken for granted.

You have only one option which someone else has already said.

Leave the bastard.

at all the people similarly dominated by their cats.

I think my name says it all. Only one of mine will use the catflap. The other looks at me as if to say 'that's for cats - I am ruler of the world. I do not use doors for cats'.

Dee - ddog1 used to use the catflap when she was a puppy. We were convinced we'd find her wedged in there, when she got too big, but we never did - she seemed to realise when she was getting too large (she's a brown lab, stocky build), and now she just rattles at the catflap with her paw when she wants to go in or out.

So I have to keep an eye out for the cat wanting me to open the front door to let him in or out, and I have to listen out for ddog1 rattling the catflap so I can let her in or out of the back door. All I lack is the black, ankle length dress and the cap and apron. [despairs]