..... Constant decline of sleepover invite

[Giddymiss]

My DD is 7 and very keen to have a sleepover with a close friend who comes to tea at our house probably once a week during term time (because it's a good thing to do, they are friends, DD is an only child, it helps with friends mothers childcare arrangement and my part time work commitments means I can help out on a regular basis).

Both families are friendly and we share are family days out a few times a year.

I've never poisoned friend with my home cooking - lol. No limbs have ever been broken. They always play nicely together.

Problem is every invitation has been declined - politely and dare I say it in an overly flowery way with excuse that whilst mum is ok with it it's the dad that's says no/feels child too young etc.

However children talk freely don't they and it's obvious this child does go on sleepovers after all. This is leaving my DD upset and confused.

I would appreciate opinions - from both sides of this dilemma - please feel free to speak candidly. Thanks.

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Why the actual fuck do people do this?

...and MN, PLEASE go back to the double ended ZOMBIE warnings, I'm well past giving a toss that it upsets some snowflakes.

Just saw that this is a zombie thread, but it brought me out in a cold sweat because I realized that the OP could have been writing about me (same time frame) There was a school mum who had an only dd who seemed to become obsessed with any child that her dd liked. She used to keep asking (me) for playdates, but present it as if she was doing me such a favour. Initially I was happy enough but then she wanted my dd over most days and when I tried to decline a few times she ramped it up a notch, saying things like "I think it would be really beneficial for X (my dd). I have noticed she looks happier at our house than at yours" She once informed me that she was seeing "signs of psychosis" in my dd as well and that spending time with her dd would help a lot. My dd was feeling really suffocated by this child as she wanted her all for herself and didn't want her to play with anyone else. This mum was very insistent upon sleepovers which I kept having to refuse as I just wanted to give ourselves a bit of space from them. She would demand reasons/explanations as to why we were busy and offer alternative times/dates. Thankfully her dd latched onto someone else in the end, I started to dread seeing her name come up on my phone!