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Original poster

Not to want DH to give our old computer to his sister?

95 replies

sississy · 16/02/2012 21:21

Maybe I am being petty but...
Since our DD was born 5 years ago we ahve been haing a very hard time (moneywise) and after sacrifices, hard working and me opening my own business we started now to few things we could never afford. This year Dh is treating himself to an Ipad and I will buy a Mac laptop.
So..Dh was telling this to MIL and she asked what we would do with our old laptop and he said I wanted to keep as spare laptop or guests laptop...
So she came up with the brilliant idea to give it to SIL as she has a crap one and he agreed.
When I came back home and he told me that I said yeah no problem, but than thinking about it I changed my mind and I said well, no I would rather keep or sell it and your sister can buy one herself ....and here are the reasons:

  • she is divorced and lives alone in a small village in scotland. she pays rent now but when she manages to sell her big family home and split the money with her ex, she will have money to buy her computer...we pay rent in London and it is not cheap...we never had a mortgage and I can't see us having it anytime soon. *she is single and works full time, we have a child and I am just back working full time for a year since I opened my own business, so we are not exactly swimming in money just getting a bit more comfortable. *If her current computer is crap so is this one MIL want us to give her and that is the reason why we are getting new computers for ourselves.

Maybe I am being selfish but I would rather sell and put the money in the kitty for my DD's B'day than just give it away...or maybe keep for an emergency as I wanted in the first place.

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FabbyChic · 16/02/2012 22:26

Firstly never a good idea to sell on an old computer, as you are leaving behind everything on your hard drive, you can never delete it it stays there and can be retrieved by those who know how.

However, I have here a four year old Dell Laptop that is old yet still worth £150 second hand on ebay if I wanted to sell it.

Try looking on eBay via Advanced Search completed listings for a similar laptop to the one you have.

blackeyedsusan · 16/02/2012 22:27

tell dh that you are still using it and it can be discussed when you are no longer using it.

it would be good for your dd to play cbeebies on so that she doesn't wreck your new computer.

I think you are more pissed off with dh to be honest and sil is getting the flack. remind dh that sometimes he needs to consult about things before promising people stuff that you are still using.

ifancyashandy · 16/02/2012 22:28

What Kayano said. All of it.

bibbitybobbityhat · 16/02/2012 22:31

PMSL at "why bother replying then?"

oh, how I so enjoy the informed and intelligent cut and thrust of Mumsnet ...

Xmasbaby11 · 16/02/2012 22:31

I'd give it to her. Not sre you need a spare or guest laptop if you have 2 new computers in the house.

Kayano · 16/02/2012 22:32
Wine
halcyondays · 16/02/2012 22:33

I would keep it for your dd.

Original poster
sississy · 16/02/2012 22:34

I am selfish, petty unreasonable and a bitch. And I love it!
I do have many backstories aldi, yes you are right, but I like them all, we get on well, I will just give the computer to DD when I buy my new one however I would have fun just saying NO to MIL and SIL and being a right bitch in front of Dh.
And I am not from London, I am not even from the UK and even though I have a permanent visa I am not a British citzen, so I don't think I am better than anyone else just because I live in London.

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cheesesarnie · 16/02/2012 22:36

you forgot jealous Wink

Original poster
sississy · 16/02/2012 22:39

No, not jealous.
At least not jealous of her...
Maybe if she was Angelina Jolie...

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Original poster
sississy · 16/02/2012 22:41

And the why bother replying, is related to why bother posting?
If you think the post is silly and irrelevant, don't waste your precious time

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LadyBeagleEyes · 16/02/2012 22:47

FFS just give her the computer.
Or not.
Though being a childless divorcee seems to irk you somewhat.

cheesesarnie · 16/02/2012 22:50

im beginning to see your point op.
your sil obviously doesnt deserve your cast offs-fancy being childless,divorced and whatever the other thing was!Shock

you're so much better my sweet

ifancyashandy · 16/02/2012 23:03

Blimey, I'm childless, I work and not only am I single, I've NEVER BEEN MARIED!! Nobody ever give me anything!!

Original poster
sississy · 16/02/2012 23:17

you probably can buy your things yourself, you dont need for example your sil to give your her old fucked up laptop with its dodge battery

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skybluepearl · 16/02/2012 23:19

You need to contact MIL and say that it was very kind that BIL was keen to give it to SIL but that you need it still so will be hangin on to it.

ComposHat · 17/02/2012 00:04

What is it with moaning cockneys on Mumsnet tonight?

There's another one of their accursed kind bleating about their housing costs on another thread.

Where's the spirit that got you through the blitz? Rolling out the barrel, knees up muvver Brahn. etc. etc.

This will put a smile on your cokernee boatrace (face):

BackforGood · 17/02/2012 00:29

YABVU and making yourself sound a bit ridiculous tbh. It may be that you are not ridiculous, but we can only go on what you are posting on here.
You have something you don't need, yet you are looking for any possible place you can give it to, rather than just say 'Yes, fine, we don't need it' when you MiL suggests your SiL might be able to use it. Confused

tethersend · 17/02/2012 00:37

She might not want it...

luvsaschnoozer · 17/02/2012 01:20

I would take the hard drive out and put the laptop on ebay, we did this last year and got £155 for ours even though it wasn't working and 3 years old. Lots of people want them for spares and/or repairs. x

decisionmaking · 17/02/2012 05:13

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troisgarcons · 17/02/2012 06:02

I would have fun just saying NO to MIL and SIL and being a right bitch in front of Dh.

Wow. Must be a barrel of laughs when you all get together

runningwilde · 17/02/2012 06:11

It's not up to your mil to tell you what to do with your laptop and it's yours so do with it what you like

Giving it to your dd is a good idea. Just say you have done that and leave it at that!

By the way, sounds very unreasonable that they dont have you to stay with them when you visit

HillyWallaby · 17/02/2012 06:21

I don't think you'd get much for your laptop but it could always be given to your child. You wouldn't really want a 5 year old using your barnd new ipad or Mac, and loading all the games etc that children like can screw up a computer so it's great to have an old laptop for that purpose. Plus it's always handy as a mobile DVD payer for the car etc.

cookcleanerchaufferetc · 17/02/2012 06:37

The obvious answer is give it to your DD to use. No brainer!

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